I think it's hard dealing with these kids regardless of what mode you are currently operating in.
Nurturing(worrying) or Detaching. They both seem as much work.
I try to pay more attention to how I survive the battles. In other words, was I able to stay out of his taunting and not get sucked in. After all I've had years of practice!!!! :frown: Did I stay out of it and not try to rescue him. Or did I hold the line I needed to hold in the conflict. He's almost 22yr. so easier to let life catch up to him and see what happens.
I used to really like it when I would get mad enough that I could really be in the detach mode and not feel the nurturing trying to take over and bring worry along. Dang! Never could stay in that zone long enough. Always returned to worry about B.
Stay strong!!!
