I like "new weird!" I think that this applies to many families. Some are just good at putting on a good face. I think of my ex husband's extended family. I thought they were perfect t. They looked perfect. They had great jobs and college. One was a doctor (who went to MD school largely on grandmothers dime). They did everything together. Their kids were close.
Years have passed. One of the three perfect son's confronted his dad about being an alcoholic. I never saw him drink but I don't doubt it. However another son was enraged that his brother accused his father. Doctor brother dropped medicine for the ministry and both other brothers are enraged that he took grandma's money (a gift) and quit being a doctor. That picked on son moved from Chicago to Colorado to get away. There was recently a wedding that Princess went to and she heard all the stories from the players. The boys had not seen each other or spoken for at least twenty years and there was no reconciliations at the wedding. Their children, the cousins, are grown and don't know each other.
With their nice house, white picket fence and handsome well behaved smart athletic kids,they looked great to all. Even much family never heard about the strife.
The parents are both still alive. To see their kids they have to travel from house to house at separate times. They moved to Arizona.
Never envy your neighbors. You don't know. Even with kids who (we think) are not on drugs and have good jobs. The parents must be sick of it. And maybe Dad is an alcoholic and I don't know if he is on good terms with the son who accused him.