I, personally, think there is a big problem here with difficult child 2 and the "K's". The K's are the foster parents that difficult child 2 just left in December. He spent 16 months with them. I think anyone who reads this is going to know the history, so I'm not going to go through it all. But basically, with difficult child 2 getting in trouble so much in school, it was causing problems with the K's. So, this is what I think happened, and what I am gathering from bits and pieces of the story from all the liars and people trying to shut me out (and a piece or two from difficult child 2). I think Mrs. K gave difficult child 2 his consequence there on the last 3 day out of school suspension, that he was to do the 3 days in his room doing schoolwork. But, I think she did that AFTER the fact. I think Mr. K wanted difficult child 2 out. This is what I'm hearing as the story is. He wanted him out, and apparantley, Mrs. K must not really have TRULY wanted him out? But, she had to stick by Mr. K. So, bring us to today. Mrs. K has been calling me frequently. I'd say 4-5 times since difficult child 2 was removed. He's been out of there 5/6 weeks? So, around once a week. She emailed him a Christmas card (he was already removed then). He hasn't been in his email. You know how you send an e-card, and always get that note saying so and so read your card? Well, she never got one, because he never opened it. So, she tries to find out who the new foster parents are. She keeps asking me, do I know their names - where do they live, etc? Obviously, I know nothing, so I can't tell her anything. Now, many weeks after he's been removed from her home, she is messaging him on MySpace. Sending him notes asking him why he left, etc, etc. To me, this seems A) highly unprofessional, B) completely inappropriate and C) out of her boundary to be in. It almost seems like she is trying to compete against me for difficult child 2. She has a photo on her MySpace page showing difficult child 2 and one of her adoptive foster kids. The quotation underneath says "Only my boys". Okay, difficult child 2 is not your child. FYI - difficult child 2 called her mom and Mr. K dad through his entire stay there. This, obviously, made me highly uncomfortable and I thought it was totally inappropriate. I, luckily, can log into difficult child 2's MySpace stuff any time I want (I have the password - shhhhh ) - but now that she has found him, I can only log in on days when he's there. Because, for example, it shows his last log in date was 1/22/2007. So, if I log in today, she's going to see "he" was online (when it was really me). That means she will message him and ask him why he was on and didn't reply to her. It's really, really getting almost obsessive. She only JUST started this MySpace page. I think, honestly, she only did this to communicate with difficult child 2. Then she makes a bulletin this morning. The title is "Bye". It says something about people on there being fake, and if they are her real friend, to make their own bulletin and title it bye too. Doing this will show that her "friends" in her MySpace are paying attention to her (weirddddddddddddd). Seeing as how its just her own children, me and difficult child 2 on her MySpace, I'd guess that it's directed at him? She's looking for more attention from him? He's apparantley not communicating with her as much as she wants? Does this sound normal to you foster mothers? I do not think all this communication from her is appropriate. She CLAIMS she's only concerned about difficult child 2, but she did tell me I can't tell anyone she's communicating with him, so I already know it's probably not allowed. And of course, I haven't logged into difficult child 2's site yet to see what he's sending to her. As soon as I get a day he's on there, I'm in though. He did post a comment on her page that said hi, things are good, I might move home to my mom's!!! (which, that's another story, and no, he's probably not going to) - and right away, that's when she called me. Like, obsessed, again. Something is definately going on with this foster mother. Like I said, it's almost obsessive. Something just isn't right here, and I don't know how to stop it. I dont want to hurt her. She took care of my child for 13 months. I don't want to seem unsympathetic, I just need her to give me and my son some space. It's almost like she's trying to come between the two of us. Calling him her kid? That's really bizarre. I know I'm missing some stuff. I'm sorry. Thoughts?