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<blockquote data-quote="donna723" data-source="post: 11935" data-attributes="member: 1883"><p>I agree, this sounds like VERY unprofessional behavior for a foster parent. And messaging him on MySpace like another kid would do is very juvenile and downright bizarre! Is there someone in the foster care system that you could report this to? If "The System" wanted her to know where he was, they would have told her! No way should she be secretly contacting him!</p><p></p><p>I went through all the training, home studies and certifications to become a foster parent, then decided that it just was not something that I could do while I was still working full time. I am considering taking early retirement and will persue it then. But the main thing we were taught is that you love and care for them like your own while you have them, with the full understanding that you are just a SUBSTITUTE for the parents, and that someday this child WILL leave you. You are to NEVER speak badly of the bio family, you present them in the most positive light, and the main goal is usually reunification with the bio family, if at all possible. It is NOT a competition! And when they do leave you, for whatever reason, even if you do not agree with their next placement, you project a positive and encouraging attitude to the child to ease their transition to another home, no matter how hard it is for you personally. It's about THE CHILD and their best interests ... not about YOU, the foster parent! This woman seems to be a lot more concerned with how they feel about HER and her own emotions and feelings than she is about the children under her care. She's breaking lots and lots of rules here. If someone in our foster care system were doing what this lady is doing, they wouldn't be a foster parent for very long!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="donna723, post: 11935, member: 1883"] I agree, this sounds like VERY unprofessional behavior for a foster parent. And messaging him on MySpace like another kid would do is very juvenile and downright bizarre! Is there someone in the foster care system that you could report this to? If "The System" wanted her to know where he was, they would have told her! No way should she be secretly contacting him! I went through all the training, home studies and certifications to become a foster parent, then decided that it just was not something that I could do while I was still working full time. I am considering taking early retirement and will persue it then. But the main thing we were taught is that you love and care for them like your own while you have them, with the full understanding that you are just a SUBSTITUTE for the parents, and that someday this child WILL leave you. You are to NEVER speak badly of the bio family, you present them in the most positive light, and the main goal is usually reunification with the bio family, if at all possible. It is NOT a competition! And when they do leave you, for whatever reason, even if you do not agree with their next placement, you project a positive and encouraging attitude to the child to ease their transition to another home, no matter how hard it is for you personally. It's about THE CHILD and their best interests ... not about YOU, the foster parent! This woman seems to be a lot more concerned with how they feel about HER and her own emotions and feelings than she is about the children under her care. She's breaking lots and lots of rules here. If someone in our foster care system were doing what this lady is doing, they wouldn't be a foster parent for very long! [/QUOTE]
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