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<blockquote data-quote="overcome mom" data-source="post: 748925" data-attributes="member: 23328"><p>Copabanana thanks so much for responding to my post . I know it is not a good idea not to have him come home even if it is for only a couple of weeks. I think it is questionable that it would be only a couple of weeks and if not the drama of getting him to leave would be a lot. I know that he needs to take care of this problem. I know I tend to be really negative about him. He has improved a little bit over the last 10 years. In that he is not as verbally demanding for money like he was when he was younger. I think he thinks I still should give it to him but doesn't say it anymore. For the last 6 years his criminal activity is limited to driving offenses and one drug offense. Also, he really has worked at getting jobs. He is very good at getting job absolutely awful at keeping them. He has had at least 9 jobs in the last year and a half. The longest was 6 weeks. He can get himself out of things for the moment but they always come back to bite him. </p><p></p><p>I have tentatively looked for sober living places but so far no luck. We live in a very poor state and services have been cut tremendously. Right now he is in jail in a tiny ,tiny town out of state. He has basically been homeless for the last 2 years staying at places for a short time and living in the vehicle he was driving. Just found out his license was suspended for not attending a court date for speeding. Like I said he is in a big hole financially. He owes thousands of dollars of fines in many different states. Not having a home seems like it makes it harder to get into a sober living place. </p><p>Copa I know that you work in corrections and it sounds like it is in a larger area. </p><p></p><p>There is no mental health treatment where he is. The only way they would do any "treatment" would be if he was suicidal. Right now they don't even have any minister that comes in.This is a very punitive place in a backward state. His speedy court hearing is 3 1/2 months from his charge. I said this before but EVERY DAY he gets oatmeal for breakfast, baloney sandwich for lunch and beans and cornbread for dinner, some times he gets mixed frozen vegetables. There is no fruit so they put vitamin C in the water so that they don't get scurvy. I wouldn't have believed him but it is on their web site (they like to brag) and that is what they told me when I called. The only things he can order from the commissary are processed snack food or mackerel in a can. I also saw this list </p><p>I will put the onus on him but feel I will help a little when he gets out. He will be a town with no buses or public transportation, no money, no phone , no car, no clothes except what he is wearing, no belongings. I do wish he was in a larger more progressive area so there were more services available. </p><p></p><p>Let you now how it all turns out. Thanks for the concern</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="overcome mom, post: 748925, member: 23328"] Copabanana thanks so much for responding to my post . I know it is not a good idea not to have him come home even if it is for only a couple of weeks. I think it is questionable that it would be only a couple of weeks and if not the drama of getting him to leave would be a lot. I know that he needs to take care of this problem. I know I tend to be really negative about him. He has improved a little bit over the last 10 years. In that he is not as verbally demanding for money like he was when he was younger. I think he thinks I still should give it to him but doesn't say it anymore. For the last 6 years his criminal activity is limited to driving offenses and one drug offense. Also, he really has worked at getting jobs. He is very good at getting job absolutely awful at keeping them. He has had at least 9 jobs in the last year and a half. The longest was 6 weeks. He can get himself out of things for the moment but they always come back to bite him. I have tentatively looked for sober living places but so far no luck. We live in a very poor state and services have been cut tremendously. Right now he is in jail in a tiny ,tiny town out of state. He has basically been homeless for the last 2 years staying at places for a short time and living in the vehicle he was driving. Just found out his license was suspended for not attending a court date for speeding. Like I said he is in a big hole financially. He owes thousands of dollars of fines in many different states. Not having a home seems like it makes it harder to get into a sober living place. Copa I know that you work in corrections and it sounds like it is in a larger area. There is no mental health treatment where he is. The only way they would do any "treatment" would be if he was suicidal. Right now they don't even have any minister that comes in.This is a very punitive place in a backward state. His speedy court hearing is 3 1/2 months from his charge. I said this before but EVERY DAY he gets oatmeal for breakfast, baloney sandwich for lunch and beans and cornbread for dinner, some times he gets mixed frozen vegetables. There is no fruit so they put vitamin C in the water so that they don't get scurvy. I wouldn't have believed him but it is on their web site (they like to brag) and that is what they told me when I called. The only things he can order from the commissary are processed snack food or mackerel in a can. I also saw this list I will put the onus on him but feel I will help a little when he gets out. He will be a town with no buses or public transportation, no money, no phone , no car, no clothes except what he is wearing, no belongings. I do wish he was in a larger more progressive area so there were more services available. Let you now how it all turns out. Thanks for the concern [/QUOTE]
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