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<blockquote data-quote="overcome mom" data-source="post: 748938" data-attributes="member: 23328"><p>I do appreciate all the different insights . He just turned 26 and has a high school diploma so no Job corps. I too have paid for him to live some place else many different times. Each time he doesn't take care of the place, pisses off the neighbors and then won't pay the water or electric. I am done doing that. I have paid for a few nights in a hotel just so he won't come home.</p><p>Copa if you want to know more of his history you can look at my old posts- Feeling guilty - Am I doing the right thing.Long Long story. I do have a fairly good relationships with him but wonder how much of it is because I give him money and do things for him. It was very strange when he was younger and running away all the time he would call me all the time to let me know he was Ok. When asked by police if he was running because of abuse at home he would tell them- no his parents were a little strict but that was not why he was running. One of my friends said he was running to something rather than running away. Think it was a combo of looking for friends and drugs. I think meth is his drug of choice. He says he is just going to stop when he gets out. Can't worry about going to meetings , he needs to get a job so that he has a place to live. I have pointed out if he is using he will not be able to keep a job. </p><p> </p><p>He should not be on probation when he gets out . They will probably just give him time served and the release him. It is so depressing he has so many fines he owes all over the place I have no idea how he will ever pay them off and be able to drive.</p><p></p><p>I don't know how you do this. </p><p>At this point I will help him some but it is going to be up to him. Still totally undecided as to if I will let him stay with us for a while. I have a month and with him many things can change in that period of time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="overcome mom, post: 748938, member: 23328"] I do appreciate all the different insights . He just turned 26 and has a high school diploma so no Job corps. I too have paid for him to live some place else many different times. Each time he doesn't take care of the place, pisses off the neighbors and then won't pay the water or electric. I am done doing that. I have paid for a few nights in a hotel just so he won't come home. Copa if you want to know more of his history you can look at my old posts- Feeling guilty - Am I doing the right thing.Long Long story. I do have a fairly good relationships with him but wonder how much of it is because I give him money and do things for him. It was very strange when he was younger and running away all the time he would call me all the time to let me know he was Ok. When asked by police if he was running because of abuse at home he would tell them- no his parents were a little strict but that was not why he was running. One of my friends said he was running to something rather than running away. Think it was a combo of looking for friends and drugs. I think meth is his drug of choice. He says he is just going to stop when he gets out. Can't worry about going to meetings , he needs to get a job so that he has a place to live. I have pointed out if he is using he will not be able to keep a job. He should not be on probation when he gets out . They will probably just give him time served and the release him. It is so depressing he has so many fines he owes all over the place I have no idea how he will ever pay them off and be able to drive. I don't know how you do this. At this point I will help him some but it is going to be up to him. Still totally undecided as to if I will let him stay with us for a while. I have a month and with him many things can change in that period of time. [/QUOTE]
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