Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
Time to sell his car?
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 517874" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>(((((hugs)))))</p><p></p><p>I would NOT believe a word he says until he gets some sort of rehab/12 step help and really works the program. not one single word or promise about grades, not smoking, not using, whatever. Your son is only loyal to one thing - his addiction. He is now a pod person taken over by the alien named addiction. This addiction will do the talking and the walking until it is kicked out by HIM with the help of rehab and a 12 step program. It just is what it is. He will lie to you, steal from you, con you, play you, hurt and betray you for as long as you choose to allow him to do it. </p><p></p><p>It sounds like he needs to move out an be on his own. The more you help him, the more you give him or buy him, the more $$ he has to use for drugs. This means ALL help, including help with the bank account. Get your name off of his account if it is on there, and then let him SINK. Let them report him to chex or whomeever. It is the natural and logical consequence of HIS ACTIONS. </p><p></p><p>PLEASE read mattsmom's thread in this forum. It has an interesting plea from a recovering addict. It is something I have heard in MANY speaker meetings at AA and from many who come to alanon when they learn their child is now an addict like they were. </p><p></p><p>Just remember that every penny you give him or spend on hm is another penny's worth of drugs. I stopped giving my brother ANYTHING when I realized this. I became the family &itch but that was the breaks.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 517874, member: 1233"] (((((hugs))))) I would NOT believe a word he says until he gets some sort of rehab/12 step help and really works the program. not one single word or promise about grades, not smoking, not using, whatever. Your son is only loyal to one thing - his addiction. He is now a pod person taken over by the alien named addiction. This addiction will do the talking and the walking until it is kicked out by HIM with the help of rehab and a 12 step program. It just is what it is. He will lie to you, steal from you, con you, play you, hurt and betray you for as long as you choose to allow him to do it. It sounds like he needs to move out an be on his own. The more you help him, the more you give him or buy him, the more $$ he has to use for drugs. This means ALL help, including help with the bank account. Get your name off of his account if it is on there, and then let him SINK. Let them report him to chex or whomeever. It is the natural and logical consequence of HIS ACTIONS. PLEASE read mattsmom's thread in this forum. It has an interesting plea from a recovering addict. It is something I have heard in MANY speaker meetings at AA and from many who come to alanon when they learn their child is now an addict like they were. Just remember that every penny you give him or spend on hm is another penny's worth of drugs. I stopped giving my brother ANYTHING when I realized this. I became the family &itch but that was the breaks. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
Time to sell his car?
Top