sequoia in the sahara, if we had an answer for how to get a 16 yr old out of ODD behavior, we would all be pretty happy.
Is there something that he wants that can be a carrot?
Is there a male adult that your son relates to that might spend some time with him?
Is he involved with any extracurricular activities or hobbies?
What about him getting a job? I'm just trying to throw out ideas that may stop the downward spiral.