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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 393947" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Thanks, Ladies! The issue with my mother is no surprise at all- I learned in my early 20's that I was better off keeping her at arms' length, at a minimum. I was foolish enough to think I could ease that up a bit in order for difficult child to have a grandmother (and uncle at the time) in his life and that it would be in his best interest. Little did I know, but I probably should have known better.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, regarding the current situation with difficult child, I don't see any indication at all that he would do any better next year if he returned to live with me upon release again. His only chance, in my humble opinion, is to go someplace else and live. However, I still think it would be extremely detrimental to him to go to my bro. It wouldn't be as harmful as when difficult child was 12 or 13yo, but with difficult child having such a small chance of ever returning to "normal" life, I honestly believe that situation would be contradictory to what he needs. I just don't know if what he needs is available at all given that the "system" says as long as I or my bro are options, difficult child won't go anywhere else. Then difficult child ends up re-incarcerated because I can't control him and my bro thinks he can let difficult child have sex and do drugs/party and difficult child won't get into legal trouble. Little does he know- I might have lost complete touch with difficult child in a lot of ways but I know him better than that. on the other hand, I simply have to consider what is in my best interest, too, this time. I'm going tostart talking to difficult child about some of this, via mail or at visitation or both, but I am not going to take any action either way until after he turns 16yo and a few more mos have passed for me to see if he is still excelling in school. This also gives me more time to get my head back toward "normalcy" so maybe I can make a wiser decision about what is in both our best interests, what course to take that gives him the best chance for transitioning (not that I'm holding my breath), etc.</p><p></p><p>As far as work, I like the job and right now I feel like they are all happy with me. A couple of others though- and one of those being my super- I just can't imagine that there won't be more red flags raised to higher ups and it would amaze me if someone doesn't want some changes made sometime next year. I just hope they don't cut the contract for the whole company. In the meantime, I am networking and forming as many good "ties" with others here outside this company as I can.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 393947, member: 3699"] Thanks, Ladies! The issue with my mother is no surprise at all- I learned in my early 20's that I was better off keeping her at arms' length, at a minimum. I was foolish enough to think I could ease that up a bit in order for difficult child to have a grandmother (and uncle at the time) in his life and that it would be in his best interest. Little did I know, but I probably should have known better. Anyway, regarding the current situation with difficult child, I don't see any indication at all that he would do any better next year if he returned to live with me upon release again. His only chance, in my humble opinion, is to go someplace else and live. However, I still think it would be extremely detrimental to him to go to my bro. It wouldn't be as harmful as when difficult child was 12 or 13yo, but with difficult child having such a small chance of ever returning to "normal" life, I honestly believe that situation would be contradictory to what he needs. I just don't know if what he needs is available at all given that the "system" says as long as I or my bro are options, difficult child won't go anywhere else. Then difficult child ends up re-incarcerated because I can't control him and my bro thinks he can let difficult child have sex and do drugs/party and difficult child won't get into legal trouble. Little does he know- I might have lost complete touch with difficult child in a lot of ways but I know him better than that. on the other hand, I simply have to consider what is in my best interest, too, this time. I'm going tostart talking to difficult child about some of this, via mail or at visitation or both, but I am not going to take any action either way until after he turns 16yo and a few more mos have passed for me to see if he is still excelling in school. This also gives me more time to get my head back toward "normalcy" so maybe I can make a wiser decision about what is in both our best interests, what course to take that gives him the best chance for transitioning (not that I'm holding my breath), etc. As far as work, I like the job and right now I feel like they are all happy with me. A couple of others though- and one of those being my super- I just can't imagine that there won't be more red flags raised to higher ups and it would amaze me if someone doesn't want some changes made sometime next year. I just hope they don't cut the contract for the whole company. In the meantime, I am networking and forming as many good "ties" with others here outside this company as I can. [/QUOTE]
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