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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 113000" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>When my daughter was ready, she was very vocal about it, very remorseful, and did it without rehab (although I'm not saying that's a plus or not). She had been trying to quit on and off and her biggest obstacle seemed to be her friends. Once she was out-of-state, living with her brother, she no longer took drugs and she got with her straight arrow brother's program QUICK. I think you know if your son is serious or just wanting to dodge jail. It's more than words, it's actions. You don't need money to quit. My daughter had nothing from us and a job at "Subway" (yes, THAT Subway). There must be N/A meetings in jail. Is he attending and seriously working the steps? My daughter didn't do this either--she just quit--but you do need some sort of sign. My own opinion is you'll be out $250 if you do it and your son will be back on the streets. I'd make him earn every penny if he wants rehab. It's very hard to quit. I'd want him where he is so he's off the streets and has a longer time to stay clean. Yes, I know you can get drugs in jail, but if he does, then you'll know he's not serious. I think you notice a serious lifestyle change if your kid is ready to quit and you'd probably notice it even in jail--like he's really cooperative and hardworking (not for YOUR benefit so that you'll dish out cash, but for his own benefit because he hates his lifestyle and wants to change). Trust me, it doesn't cost a penny to get clean. If the person is highly motivated the person will kick it--either with N/A meetings or alone. I wish you luck in your decision. I know my daughter would tell you to make him do the work.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 113000, member: 1550"] When my daughter was ready, she was very vocal about it, very remorseful, and did it without rehab (although I'm not saying that's a plus or not). She had been trying to quit on and off and her biggest obstacle seemed to be her friends. Once she was out-of-state, living with her brother, she no longer took drugs and she got with her straight arrow brother's program QUICK. I think you know if your son is serious or just wanting to dodge jail. It's more than words, it's actions. You don't need money to quit. My daughter had nothing from us and a job at "Subway" (yes, THAT Subway). There must be N/A meetings in jail. Is he attending and seriously working the steps? My daughter didn't do this either--she just quit--but you do need some sort of sign. My own opinion is you'll be out $250 if you do it and your son will be back on the streets. I'd make him earn every penny if he wants rehab. It's very hard to quit. I'd want him where he is so he's off the streets and has a longer time to stay clean. Yes, I know you can get drugs in jail, but if he does, then you'll know he's not serious. I think you notice a serious lifestyle change if your kid is ready to quit and you'd probably notice it even in jail--like he's really cooperative and hardworking (not for YOUR benefit so that you'll dish out cash, but for his own benefit because he hates his lifestyle and wants to change). Trust me, it doesn't cost a penny to get clean. If the person is highly motivated the person will kick it--either with N/A meetings or alone. I wish you luck in your decision. I know my daughter would tell you to make him do the work. [/QUOTE]
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