Not sure if I am posting for advice or to help me come up with my own answers, but this is the question. I just bought myself a car and my husband has one. Sold the one I had for my son two months ago because he was smoking pot in it and had various items related to pot in the car which I said if found, would sell car, which I did. Didn't really phase him the way I thought. The positives that he is doing....has a job, will start working full time after this week when Jr. College is out for a landscaping co. He has kept his curfew. My husband has let my son use to car ocassionally to go see his girlfriend that is close by and to work and back. Has caused a lot of anxiety in me for some reason denying his use of the car more often because I feel his total lack of understanding of why we restrict this. My husband always uses the excuse that he can't use it because he has errands to run or will go fishing, but never has come out and said it is because he smokes pot and doesn't want him driving under the inflluence. All of his friends indulge as well. All college kids. My son will just say that he won't smoke when he uses my car and no one will in the car....but I know that will not be the case. He needs to get to work and friends will not always be able to pick him up like they have to do when we won't let him use the car. Am I just too soft feeling so much anxiety now that there is a second car to use? My son considers this "our car" since I sold his car. I am just antisipating the confrontation before it has happens now that the new car is here and am sick to my stomach having to deal with this subject. He will not stop smoking, see's nothing wrong with it especially now that it is like a traffic ticket if you are caught with the legal amount. He is home right now...time to face the music.