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To Surrender or Not...My 2 yr old
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<blockquote data-quote="ksm" data-source="post: 750321" data-attributes="member: 12511"><p>When we first got custody of the granddaughters, we got a small amount each month, they had free medical cards, plus I had free child care as I was working art time. This was15 years ago. </p><p></p><p>The children had a guardian ad litem (who was basically useless, but he didn't fight us wanting custody/adoption), and a CASA worker that visited each month (who thought the girls should go to a friend of hers who wanted to adopt!) I got the kids in to therapy as soon as I could. My youngest DGD was 4 at the time.</p><p></p><p>If you think age two is difficult, think ahead to age 15, 16 and even young adult hood. Even tbough you are the only mom figure he has known, he has already had emotional trauma. As they got older, my DGDs internalized a lot of their worries, later they were diagnosed with Anxiety, Depression, ODD, substance abuse, self harming, mood disorder, then bipolar. Luckily, each didn't have all those, but an assortment. </p><p></p><p>It's been very difficult. My husband is mid 70's and I'm in my mid 60's. This is not what we planned for our retirement. They are 19 and 21 and have difficulty keeping a job, not interested in furthering education, and poor relationship choices.</p><p></p><p>No one will blame you if you decide this isn't the best path fir you and your grandchild. Well, maybe just the people who aren't willing to step up and help!!!</p><p></p><p>Ksm</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ksm, post: 750321, member: 12511"] When we first got custody of the granddaughters, we got a small amount each month, they had free medical cards, plus I had free child care as I was working art time. This was15 years ago. The children had a guardian ad litem (who was basically useless, but he didn't fight us wanting custody/adoption), and a CASA worker that visited each month (who thought the girls should go to a friend of hers who wanted to adopt!) I got the kids in to therapy as soon as I could. My youngest DGD was 4 at the time. If you think age two is difficult, think ahead to age 15, 16 and even young adult hood. Even tbough you are the only mom figure he has known, he has already had emotional trauma. As they got older, my DGDs internalized a lot of their worries, later they were diagnosed with Anxiety, Depression, ODD, substance abuse, self harming, mood disorder, then bipolar. Luckily, each didn't have all those, but an assortment. It's been very difficult. My husband is mid 70's and I'm in my mid 60's. This is not what we planned for our retirement. They are 19 and 21 and have difficulty keeping a job, not interested in furthering education, and poor relationship choices. No one will blame you if you decide this isn't the best path fir you and your grandchild. Well, maybe just the people who aren't willing to step up and help!!! Ksm [/QUOTE]
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