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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 690231" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>Thank you ALL. Yes, universally agreed upon validation. So often, I'm unsure about difficult child "stuff," but this was somehow different.</p><p>Echolette....wow. You touched on something super interesting for me.</p><p>Some friends promised our Difficult Child not to tell us something.</p><p>But, they told us recently for no apparent (on the surface anyway) reason.</p><p>Over the years, we've had people tell us very unpleasant things about our Difficult Child. However, in each case, they did not promise her they wouldn't tell us AND there was a good reason they almost needed to tell us. In two cases in particular, it was absolutely devastating for me, truly awful, BUT, I immediately dealt with it...felt it was for the best and absolutely understood why they told me.</p><p>This situation was so very peculiar. It was soooo different. It is something that happened a long time ago, this person promised our daughter NOT to tell us, there was no reason (on the surface, anyway) to bring it up now.</p><p>I can guess at a possible motivation. But, guesses are sometimes wrong. So, who knows for sure.</p><p>I can tell you it feels strange/uncomfortable...etc.</p><p>I can tell you this broken promise, this weird timing...the entire thing is troubling me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 690231, member: 4152"] Thank you ALL. Yes, universally agreed upon validation. So often, I'm unsure about difficult child "stuff," but this was somehow different. Echolette....wow. You touched on something super interesting for me. Some friends promised our Difficult Child not to tell us something. But, they told us recently for no apparent (on the surface anyway) reason. Over the years, we've had people tell us very unpleasant things about our Difficult Child. However, in each case, they did not promise her they wouldn't tell us AND there was a good reason they almost needed to tell us. In two cases in particular, it was absolutely devastating for me, truly awful, BUT, I immediately dealt with it...felt it was for the best and absolutely understood why they told me. This situation was so very peculiar. It was soooo different. It is something that happened a long time ago, this person promised our daughter NOT to tell us, there was no reason (on the surface, anyway) to bring it up now. I can guess at a possible motivation. But, guesses are sometimes wrong. So, who knows for sure. I can tell you it feels strange/uncomfortable...etc. I can tell you this broken promise, this weird timing...the entire thing is troubling me. [/QUOTE]
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