what would you do and briefly explain why. Keep in mind I might ask for this thread to be deleted. Somewhat sensitive material. I have a friend who is renting her difficult child an apartment, got it furnished etc, She has been counseling me re doing something similar for my difficult child. Fortunately, in a way, my daughter and hers don't get a long. But, we (the moms do!) Our two daughters don't speak. Her (This mom) and I differ regarding certain things re parenting techniques. She helps her difficult child a LOT and also supervises her a LOT. Since both of these "kids" are over 21...well, I feel a little differently. No biggee. Her daughter has been doing much better. One rule she has implemented is that her difficult child is not to have people staying overnight at the apartment. Through a very weird, indirect way, I found out via my difficult child that this rule is being broken fairly regularly. Seems they have a mutual friend and my daughter found out some info. that seems to be reliable. The mom (a wonderful gal) is very proud of many things, one of which is that her daughter has not broken that rule. My daughter asked me not to tell the mother. And I agreed. So, I think I must honor that. If you were the parent here, would you want to know? Oddly, I think I would want to know. But, I also think I absolutely must honor my daughter's secret and have chosen to keep my mouth shut. Sigh.