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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 637628" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>SW you have some great and seasoned posters here in your responses. I hope you will read and reread the above. There is a blueprint for the way forward there, for you. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>It is, and it's hard to remember that in the midst of it. We have to remind and remind ourselves of the reality of things. Because what they are saying and doing is not real. It is their distorted and very sick "reality", and we know, when we are calmer and have some space, that the things they are saying are not true. We know what we have tried to do to help them, and we know that finally, we are in the process of stopping, because the truth is that we can't cure a drug addict, alcoholic or anybody with a mental illness, just like you and I can't cure cancer. It takes the person himself or herself, plus the help of professionals and a program of rehabilitation, to change. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Crying is very good. That you are now letting yourself cry is a major step forward in your own recovery. You are making progress, even if it doesn't feel like progress. Cry all you need to. It is very healing. </p><p></p><p>Little by little, you will start feeling better and better. The more you allot time in your daily schedule to work on yourself, the faster you will feel better, and the feeling better will start to come in longer and longer stretches, until the feeling bad is less and less, no matter what he does or does not do.</p><p></p><p>It is a true miracle, that we can be happy and joyful and productive, even when our precious adult children are homeless. </p><p></p><p>Warm hugs for you today. Keep posting. Believe me, all of us have our down days and down times. The difference is: we now know what to do when it happens.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 637628, member: 17542"] SW you have some great and seasoned posters here in your responses. I hope you will read and reread the above. There is a blueprint for the way forward there, for you. It is, and it's hard to remember that in the midst of it. We have to remind and remind ourselves of the reality of things. Because what they are saying and doing is not real. It is their distorted and very sick "reality", and we know, when we are calmer and have some space, that the things they are saying are not true. We know what we have tried to do to help them, and we know that finally, we are in the process of stopping, because the truth is that we can't cure a drug addict, alcoholic or anybody with a mental illness, just like you and I can't cure cancer. It takes the person himself or herself, plus the help of professionals and a program of rehabilitation, to change. Crying is very good. That you are now letting yourself cry is a major step forward in your own recovery. You are making progress, even if it doesn't feel like progress. Cry all you need to. It is very healing. Little by little, you will start feeling better and better. The more you allot time in your daily schedule to work on yourself, the faster you will feel better, and the feeling better will start to come in longer and longer stretches, until the feeling bad is less and less, no matter what he does or does not do. It is a true miracle, that we can be happy and joyful and productive, even when our precious adult children are homeless. Warm hugs for you today. Keep posting. Believe me, all of us have our down days and down times. The difference is: we now know what to do when it happens. [/QUOTE]
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