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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 581909" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I think our difficult child's birthdays bring up a lot of emotional stuff............the what if's, the losses, the hopes and dreams that don't get realized, dashed expectations/disappointments. It seems the feelings surface for many of us at birthday time. I can relate to all your feelings, of course, my difficult child is old enough to be your difficult child's parent, but, motherhood holds no age barriers for worrying about them, or anger at them or sorrow for them. </p><p></p><p>Yes, so much is out of our control. I think it's a tad easier when we still believe we can "do something" impact change, keep trying to do anything to effect change. Once we realize we can't, I think all those feelings of helplessness, sorrow, fear, anger, all of it, surfaces. I think it's good you're going to the Dr. to be checked out. I hope you have a good support system in place, therapy, counseling, someone to talk to, a way to express your feelings, a place to get them out, a safe place which you feel comforted in. This is one difficult landscape you find yourself on, we just can't protect them from themselves. Sigh. I know. Hang in there, you always do the appropriate thing with your son, take care of yourself now, including being angry at him, that's appropriate too. (((HUGS))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 581909, member: 13542"] I think our difficult child's birthdays bring up a lot of emotional stuff............the what if's, the losses, the hopes and dreams that don't get realized, dashed expectations/disappointments. It seems the feelings surface for many of us at birthday time. I can relate to all your feelings, of course, my difficult child is old enough to be your difficult child's parent, but, motherhood holds no age barriers for worrying about them, or anger at them or sorrow for them. Yes, so much is out of our control. I think it's a tad easier when we still believe we can "do something" impact change, keep trying to do anything to effect change. Once we realize we can't, I think all those feelings of helplessness, sorrow, fear, anger, all of it, surfaces. I think it's good you're going to the Dr. to be checked out. I hope you have a good support system in place, therapy, counseling, someone to talk to, a way to express your feelings, a place to get them out, a safe place which you feel comforted in. This is one difficult landscape you find yourself on, we just can't protect them from themselves. Sigh. I know. Hang in there, you always do the appropriate thing with your son, take care of yourself now, including being angry at him, that's appropriate too. (((HUGS)))) [/QUOTE]
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