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<blockquote data-quote="PatriotsGirl" data-source="post: 596769" data-attributes="member: 15796"><p>I was silly enough to think I was being brought in for input. HA. No. They simply called me in to tell me what they ARE doing. Here is the letter I am sending to difficult child today that explains everything that happened. Gosh, I REALLY hope she makes the RIGHT choice. </p><p></p><p>Hi baby,</p><p>Well, that meeting certainly did not go the way I thought it would. I thought they wanted me there for input. HA. No. They had a huge meeting with the DA, Assistant DA and the heads of all the courts this morning before I even got there. I couldnt believe how many people were there meeting about you! They only called me in afterwards to tell me what is going on and what they are going to do. </p><p>They plan on charging you with felony possession if you do not agree to treatment court. I didnt know they could do this, but they can. By testing dirty on a drug test for meth, it proves you were in possession of meth. </p><p>You now have two choices Marina. You can finally submit and go to treatment court, or you can sit in jail until you go to court for felony charges. They said your privilege of having options ended when you used meth while pregnant. </p><p>They called me in there so they could explain what each choice would bring for you. They want me to explain to you so you can really think about this before they proceed. </p><p>If you choose to refuse and fight the felony, they can drag it out as long as they want. They CAN and WILL keep you in jail for the rest of your pregnancy. When you go into labor, they will take you to the hospital and you will be shackled to the hospital bed. We, nor Michael, will be allowed to be there. You will be in custody and give birth as a prisoner. Your baby will then most likely be taken by DFCS. </p><p>You do NOT want a felony on your record, Marina. I can tell you that NO judge in the world is going to look kindly on anyone that used meth while pregnant and then continually refused treatment. You are pretty much guaranteed to be found guilty and would serve at least a year in jail. Do you really want to miss out on Connors first year?? It will make life even more difficult for you in getting a job, a place to live, and many other consequences.</p><p>If you agree to treatment court, you WILL go to a rehab where you WILL keep your baby with you. You will not have to go to any appointments anywhere until after you are out of rehab. They will then help you with a place to live, transportation to all of your appointments and you will have a support system of other women who are exactly in the same position as you are right now going through the same program. She said that NO ONE that has gone through this program has lost their children. The program is designed to NOT take your baby from you. It is designed to train you to be a GOOD mother to Connor and <em>keep</em> you together as a family. When you go into labor, you will have your baby in a hospital just like anyone else and we can ALL be there. Most importantly, they will rip up the felony charge and make it disappear.</p><p>The choice is yours. I cant make it for you. I know you think I am powerful and the courts will do whatever I say, but that simply is not true. I have <u>zero</u> say in what they are doing. The DA and head Solicitor is VERY determined to keep that baby safe. This is not a game. It is not a battle of wills. Everyone is protecting that baby no matter what it takes. YOU are not stronger than the courts. You WILL lose and you WILL lose Connor if you continue to be stubborn and refuse to enter the program. Know that it IS your choice to make and probably THE most important decision you will ever make in your life. And please, also keep in mind that you are not only making this decision for you, but for Connor as well. You are deciding HIS future, too. YOU are deciding to keep him with you or be sent to foster care. Please, God, I hope you make the right choice.</p><p>I love you. </p><p></p><p>So - that is it. I am off to the post office to get it mailed in hopes that she will get it Monday. The Solicitor wants us to go visit her on Tuesday and see where her head is at...she said it will show her that we are all there for her and love her. So, I will - this once. Normally, I wouldn't go see my child in jail. Not exactly something I want to see. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> </p><p></p><p>Please pray with me that she makes the right choice....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PatriotsGirl, post: 596769, member: 15796"] I was silly enough to think I was being brought in for input. HA. No. They simply called me in to tell me what they ARE doing. Here is the letter I am sending to difficult child today that explains everything that happened. Gosh, I REALLY hope she makes the RIGHT choice. Hi baby, Well, that meeting certainly did not go the way I thought it would. I thought they wanted me there for input. HA. No. They had a huge meeting with the DA, Assistant DA and the heads of all the courts this morning before I even got there. I couldnt believe how many people were there meeting about you! They only called me in afterwards to tell me what is going on and what they are going to do. They plan on charging you with felony possession if you do not agree to treatment court. I didnt know they could do this, but they can. By testing dirty on a drug test for meth, it proves you were in possession of meth. You now have two choices Marina. You can finally submit and go to treatment court, or you can sit in jail until you go to court for felony charges. They said your privilege of having options ended when you used meth while pregnant. They called me in there so they could explain what each choice would bring for you. They want me to explain to you so you can really think about this before they proceed. If you choose to refuse and fight the felony, they can drag it out as long as they want. They CAN and WILL keep you in jail for the rest of your pregnancy. When you go into labor, they will take you to the hospital and you will be shackled to the hospital bed. We, nor Michael, will be allowed to be there. You will be in custody and give birth as a prisoner. Your baby will then most likely be taken by DFCS. You do NOT want a felony on your record, Marina. I can tell you that NO judge in the world is going to look kindly on anyone that used meth while pregnant and then continually refused treatment. You are pretty much guaranteed to be found guilty and would serve at least a year in jail. Do you really want to miss out on Connors first year?? It will make life even more difficult for you in getting a job, a place to live, and many other consequences. If you agree to treatment court, you WILL go to a rehab where you WILL keep your baby with you. You will not have to go to any appointments anywhere until after you are out of rehab. They will then help you with a place to live, transportation to all of your appointments and you will have a support system of other women who are exactly in the same position as you are right now going through the same program. She said that NO ONE that has gone through this program has lost their children. The program is designed to NOT take your baby from you. It is designed to train you to be a GOOD mother to Connor and [I]keep[/I] you together as a family. When you go into labor, you will have your baby in a hospital just like anyone else and we can ALL be there. Most importantly, they will rip up the felony charge and make it disappear. The choice is yours. I cant make it for you. I know you think I am powerful and the courts will do whatever I say, but that simply is not true. I have [U]zero[/U] say in what they are doing. The DA and head Solicitor is VERY determined to keep that baby safe. This is not a game. It is not a battle of wills. Everyone is protecting that baby no matter what it takes. YOU are not stronger than the courts. You WILL lose and you WILL lose Connor if you continue to be stubborn and refuse to enter the program. Know that it IS your choice to make and probably THE most important decision you will ever make in your life. And please, also keep in mind that you are not only making this decision for you, but for Connor as well. You are deciding HIS future, too. YOU are deciding to keep him with you or be sent to foster care. Please, God, I hope you make the right choice. I love you. So - that is it. I am off to the post office to get it mailed in hopes that she will get it Monday. The Solicitor wants us to go visit her on Tuesday and see where her head is at...she said it will show her that we are all there for her and love her. So, I will - this once. Normally, I wouldn't go see my child in jail. Not exactly something I want to see. :( Please pray with me that she makes the right choice.... [/QUOTE]
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