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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 279031" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Then how can the judge be so dis-connected? Or is she just BS'ing? She used to be on the panel that studied all this for the governor. She ordered mental heallth treatment to be included in difficult child's plan at Department of Juvenile Justice- then doesn't she know that the therapist will take months to start and the therapist, CW and psychiatrist will never communicate? She said herself that she didn't like the idea of Residential Treatment Center (RTC) because they let kids out when the money runs out- Department of Juvenile Justice would keep him longer and do the same thing. Can she really be that naive if the freaking case manager at Department of Juvenile Justice doesn't even communicate with anybody?</p><p></p><p>If they want it to be "this is the kids punishment- don't expect anything else" then they should all be saying the same message and not be putting it out there under the pretense that they are going to do anything else. They do this on everything from their website to the darn letter that was ssent to me about this meeting. It said "this is difficult child's comprehensive service plan that will involve all aspects of his treatment and plan while he is in Department of Juvenile Justice and his return home after release." So, I'm naive for expecting it to be more than, "these are his grades, he'll be attending anger management, no one else is here to answer your questions and I can't answer them and I have no control over what that other person decides to do because we never talk". And I'm supposed to play along with this and not blow it off- because if I blew it off, it would all be my fault for not caring, participating, and complying. And I'm naive for thinking this is a joke?</p><p></p><p>To bring this down to scale and use an example- I told them I thought difficult child could stand to be mmore assertive and deal with things instead of holding them in until he exploded and I asked if their anger management program addressed things like that. The CW and guard said yes and they elaborated saying it taught coping skills but it also taught the kids that they do need to involve authority figures. Now, if he really isn't supposed to involve authority figures but he's supposed to deal with everything on his own or be criticized, why are they putting that out in their own program that is designed to teach kids how to handle things? Should I just tell difficult child to ignore what they say and bite his tongue and play along?</p><p></p><p>difficult child gets embarressed so easily- his face was so red when I was asking those questions, especially about acne medications. I was hoping he would call tonight but I doubt he'll be able to since we had the meeting today. I know I get so frustrated and angry over all this. It's just that when a person says they are a case manager, I expect the person to be able to stay informed, communicate, and coordinate with the other disciplines. Obviously, this is too much to expect. If difficult child had a real CM, I wouldn't have to discuss acne medications in front of him and four other people.</p><p></p><p>It seemed that half the people (at least) that should be involved in difficult child's "team" weren't there today. And the principal told me that his only teacher in one required subject quit. I know they have funding issues, but where are these people? And there is still money going somewhere.....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 279031, member: 3699"] Then how can the judge be so dis-connected? Or is she just BS'ing? She used to be on the panel that studied all this for the governor. She ordered mental heallth treatment to be included in difficult child's plan at Department of Juvenile Justice- then doesn't she know that the therapist will take months to start and the therapist, CW and psychiatrist will never communicate? She said herself that she didn't like the idea of Residential Treatment Center (RTC) because they let kids out when the money runs out- Department of Juvenile Justice would keep him longer and do the same thing. Can she really be that naive if the freaking case manager at Department of Juvenile Justice doesn't even communicate with anybody? If they want it to be "this is the kids punishment- don't expect anything else" then they should all be saying the same message and not be putting it out there under the pretense that they are going to do anything else. They do this on everything from their website to the darn letter that was ssent to me about this meeting. It said "this is difficult child's comprehensive service plan that will involve all aspects of his treatment and plan while he is in Department of Juvenile Justice and his return home after release." So, I'm naive for expecting it to be more than, "these are his grades, he'll be attending anger management, no one else is here to answer your questions and I can't answer them and I have no control over what that other person decides to do because we never talk". And I'm supposed to play along with this and not blow it off- because if I blew it off, it would all be my fault for not caring, participating, and complying. And I'm naive for thinking this is a joke? To bring this down to scale and use an example- I told them I thought difficult child could stand to be mmore assertive and deal with things instead of holding them in until he exploded and I asked if their anger management program addressed things like that. The CW and guard said yes and they elaborated saying it taught coping skills but it also taught the kids that they do need to involve authority figures. Now, if he really isn't supposed to involve authority figures but he's supposed to deal with everything on his own or be criticized, why are they putting that out in their own program that is designed to teach kids how to handle things? Should I just tell difficult child to ignore what they say and bite his tongue and play along? difficult child gets embarressed so easily- his face was so red when I was asking those questions, especially about acne medications. I was hoping he would call tonight but I doubt he'll be able to since we had the meeting today. I know I get so frustrated and angry over all this. It's just that when a person says they are a case manager, I expect the person to be able to stay informed, communicate, and coordinate with the other disciplines. Obviously, this is too much to expect. If difficult child had a real CM, I wouldn't have to discuss acne medications in front of him and four other people. It seemed that half the people (at least) that should be involved in difficult child's "team" weren't there today. And the principal told me that his only teacher in one required subject quit. I know they have funding issues, but where are these people? And there is still money going somewhere..... [/QUOTE]
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