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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 188871" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I don't need to add anything to what Witz said. </p><p></p><p>About your back etc - if you had had just a fall, you would be sore and stiff. But you describe yourself as "forty something" - as we get older, we don't bounce like we used to. My last fall was when I was forty something, it took me several months of panelbeating to get me back into shape. And that was just a fall! You took a king hit on top of it, which meant you didn't have the same degree of control in how and where you landed. That has to increase the damage the fall has done.</p><p></p><p>Even if you've got nothing more than bruises, simply falling like that causes muscles to spasm here, get bruised there, bones to grind here, compress there - the whole effect is to cause considerable pain (including soft tissue damage, muscle spasms, bruising to bones and muscle). It takes time to recover. I had a darn good chiropractor as well as massage therapist working on me for several months, I was still in pain long after the bruises faded.</p><p></p><p>And that's just the physical side of it.</p><p></p><p>Stand your ground. You need your own therapy to get over the damage this has caused. During that time, you need to feel safe in your own home. And if that needs you to press charges in order to convince people how serious this was, then so be it.</p><p></p><p>The social workers and other staff at the hospital have difficult child as their prime concern. They have to do whatever they can, to ensure the best outcome for him.To their mind, that means giving him every chance to rehabilitate. They haven't been through what you have with him.</p><p></p><p>He IS 17, will probably be 18 before your body has recovered. "Never" is a long time, but from here I think you can safely say, that he won't be back home while still a child. </p><p></p><p>Once the message has been rammed home, then their efforts can perhaps be more efficiently spent in finding out of home placements for him.</p><p></p><p>Be gentle to yourself. And a tip from the doctor who treated me after my fall - use hot packs on your sore muscles. A quick, easy hot pack can be made by wetting a hand towel, wringing it out, folding it neatly, putting inside one of those crinkly plastic disposable shopping bags (like freezer bag plastic) and microwaving it on HIGH until it's hot. Don't overdo it or overheat it, and be careful to not burn yourself, but (leaving it in the plastic bag) use the hot towel as you would use a hot water bottle. When it cools, microwave it again (not as long, if it's still warm).</p><p></p><p>I've found it to be the fastest way to get some good heat applied.</p><p></p><p>Once you no longer need the hot pack, just throw the towel in the wash as usual.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 188871, member: 1991"] I don't need to add anything to what Witz said. About your back etc - if you had had just a fall, you would be sore and stiff. But you describe yourself as "forty something" - as we get older, we don't bounce like we used to. My last fall was when I was forty something, it took me several months of panelbeating to get me back into shape. And that was just a fall! You took a king hit on top of it, which meant you didn't have the same degree of control in how and where you landed. That has to increase the damage the fall has done. Even if you've got nothing more than bruises, simply falling like that causes muscles to spasm here, get bruised there, bones to grind here, compress there - the whole effect is to cause considerable pain (including soft tissue damage, muscle spasms, bruising to bones and muscle). It takes time to recover. I had a darn good chiropractor as well as massage therapist working on me for several months, I was still in pain long after the bruises faded. And that's just the physical side of it. Stand your ground. You need your own therapy to get over the damage this has caused. During that time, you need to feel safe in your own home. And if that needs you to press charges in order to convince people how serious this was, then so be it. The social workers and other staff at the hospital have difficult child as their prime concern. They have to do whatever they can, to ensure the best outcome for him.To their mind, that means giving him every chance to rehabilitate. They haven't been through what you have with him. He IS 17, will probably be 18 before your body has recovered. "Never" is a long time, but from here I think you can safely say, that he won't be back home while still a child. Once the message has been rammed home, then their efforts can perhaps be more efficiently spent in finding out of home placements for him. Be gentle to yourself. And a tip from the doctor who treated me after my fall - use hot packs on your sore muscles. A quick, easy hot pack can be made by wetting a hand towel, wringing it out, folding it neatly, putting inside one of those crinkly plastic disposable shopping bags (like freezer bag plastic) and microwaving it on HIGH until it's hot. Don't overdo it or overheat it, and be careful to not burn yourself, but (leaving it in the plastic bag) use the hot towel as you would use a hot water bottle. When it cools, microwave it again (not as long, if it's still warm). I've found it to be the fastest way to get some good heat applied. Once you no longer need the hot pack, just throw the towel in the wash as usual. Marg [/QUOTE]
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