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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 619597" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>Yes I suggest doing some research on rehabs and halfway houses in the area. There is a wide variety out there both in terms of services and cost. You want one where the rules are fairly strict I think.... where they really do not accept people staying who are not staying sober. Then I would give your son a list of places that yo approve of and are willing (if you are able) to pay for. It will be hard for him to find a reasonable place to live without your financial help. BUT I would make sure it is a set up where you can pay the rent directly, you do not want to give your son any money.</p><p></p><p>You dont say what kind of drugs he was into... and my guess is you dont really know. Given the amount of stealing he was doing from you my guess is that it is more than pot. So you really dont want to give him cash.</p><p></p><p>I absolutely think you are doing the right thing not letting him come back and live with you right now. Sounds like he was in some kind of detox but he hasnt really staretd the long road of recovery yet.... and our difficult children will always tell us what we want to hear to get what they want (at least that is my experience with my difficult child).</p><p></p><p>And if you can find a good alanon (or other support group) for parents I highly suggest you go. I have found it imensely helpful.</p><p></p><p>TL</p><p></p><p></p><p>Sent from my iPad using ConductDisorders</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 619597, member: 15801"] Yes I suggest doing some research on rehabs and halfway houses in the area. There is a wide variety out there both in terms of services and cost. You want one where the rules are fairly strict I think.... where they really do not accept people staying who are not staying sober. Then I would give your son a list of places that yo approve of and are willing (if you are able) to pay for. It will be hard for him to find a reasonable place to live without your financial help. BUT I would make sure it is a set up where you can pay the rent directly, you do not want to give your son any money. You dont say what kind of drugs he was into... and my guess is you dont really know. Given the amount of stealing he was doing from you my guess is that it is more than pot. So you really dont want to give him cash. I absolutely think you are doing the right thing not letting him come back and live with you right now. Sounds like he was in some kind of detox but he hasnt really staretd the long road of recovery yet.... and our difficult children will always tell us what we want to hear to get what they want (at least that is my experience with my difficult child). And if you can find a good alanon (or other support group) for parents I highly suggest you go. I have found it imensely helpful. TL Sent from my iPad using ConductDisorders [/QUOTE]
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