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<blockquote data-quote="ksm" data-source="post: 604998" data-attributes="member: 12511"><p>I guess I can't truly say I "don't care" anymore... as I am still trying to do what is best. But I admit that sometimes I just don't have the energy for it and it is easier to not have any interaction from her.</p><p></p><p>An example... last night she calls her boyfriend who says he is at the library and she wants to go hang out with him for a while. It is 8 blocks from our home and it is in a good neighborhood. But, things didn't "feel" right... so I went with her, as I had library books to return and wanted new books. We get to the library parking lot and I see about 6 teens, mostly boys and it seems like there was some type of altercation going on- not sure if it was verbal or physical... but if it was physical, it had happened before we pulled up. All but her boyfriend left the parking lot and she ran over to him. I stayed in the car because I was watching the situation. They stayed off to the side of the entryway. One guy kept coming out of the library and seeing her boyfriend still there, would go back inside and pace around. After about 10 minutes, she came back to the car and was ready to go home. She wouldn't say what was going on. I was furious. What if I had let her walk to the library and she got involved in that? Her boyfriend does not have a good track record... expelled from school last year for fighting... had to do community service all summer... and summer school. Last week, she wanted to ride her bike across town to meet up with him and his friends at a convenience store. I said no and said if he wanted to see her, he could come to the house. We have invited him several times and he has never shown up. difficult child is an immature 15 year old and we don't let her date. He finally showed up - about two hours late. He stayed for an hour in the living room, and I kept myself out of the way cooking in the kitchen. He was polite while he was there. I thought things went well. difficult child told me she wouldn't ask him to "endure" spending time over her for a long time as it was way out of his comfort zone! I guess we were "too rich". Ha! I could set him straight on that. We have a modest home with modest furnishings. Drive 10 year old vehicles. Not rich. We have made choices in our life that has made things a little easier on us than those who make poor choices. </p><p></p><p>Anyway, what is disgusting is that difficult child thinks that all this fighting and drama is "normal". I would bet that 90% of kids make it thru school without being in fights. It is like this drama is her drug of choice. She said it beats the boring life we live. </p><p></p><p>KSM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ksm, post: 604998, member: 12511"] I guess I can't truly say I "don't care" anymore... as I am still trying to do what is best. But I admit that sometimes I just don't have the energy for it and it is easier to not have any interaction from her. An example... last night she calls her boyfriend who says he is at the library and she wants to go hang out with him for a while. It is 8 blocks from our home and it is in a good neighborhood. But, things didn't "feel" right... so I went with her, as I had library books to return and wanted new books. We get to the library parking lot and I see about 6 teens, mostly boys and it seems like there was some type of altercation going on- not sure if it was verbal or physical... but if it was physical, it had happened before we pulled up. All but her boyfriend left the parking lot and she ran over to him. I stayed in the car because I was watching the situation. They stayed off to the side of the entryway. One guy kept coming out of the library and seeing her boyfriend still there, would go back inside and pace around. After about 10 minutes, she came back to the car and was ready to go home. She wouldn't say what was going on. I was furious. What if I had let her walk to the library and she got involved in that? Her boyfriend does not have a good track record... expelled from school last year for fighting... had to do community service all summer... and summer school. Last week, she wanted to ride her bike across town to meet up with him and his friends at a convenience store. I said no and said if he wanted to see her, he could come to the house. We have invited him several times and he has never shown up. difficult child is an immature 15 year old and we don't let her date. He finally showed up - about two hours late. He stayed for an hour in the living room, and I kept myself out of the way cooking in the kitchen. He was polite while he was there. I thought things went well. difficult child told me she wouldn't ask him to "endure" spending time over her for a long time as it was way out of his comfort zone! I guess we were "too rich". Ha! I could set him straight on that. We have a modest home with modest furnishings. Drive 10 year old vehicles. Not rich. We have made choices in our life that has made things a little easier on us than those who make poor choices. Anyway, what is disgusting is that difficult child thinks that all this fighting and drama is "normal". I would bet that 90% of kids make it thru school without being in fights. It is like this drama is her drug of choice. She said it beats the boring life we live. KSM [/QUOTE]
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