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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 590988" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I do not know what sport she plays or which colleges you are talking about. I do know that some sports have enough earning power for the coaches to be able to recruit good players who do not have great grades and actually get those players into the college. It is not as common in women's sports as in men's, but it does happen for high profile teams. It is NOT talked about because it is not supposed to happen. I knwo for a fact that it does happen anyway. There are a lot of different outcomes for this. </p><p></p><p>None of us can predict potential with great accuracy. Of course you don't want her hurt, but you cannot know if she will be hurt by a rejection from this college or if it will spur her to prove them wrong or what her or their reaction will be. She is at an age where you have to let her try. She may end up disappointed, but she will not have regrets later because seh didn't gve it a shot.</p><p></p><p>When I was looking at schools I was recruited by almost every college out there. I had a TON of offers for scholarships and tested extremely high so they clamored for me. At the end of my junior year I realized I had a paper box (the kind that paper is shipped to stores in, holds ten reams of paper) full of letters, offers, etc.... I really wanted to go to one ivy league school in the northeast. My gma told me she would pay for the whole thing if I wanted. I mentioned this school Occupational Therapist (OT) my dad and he FREAKED. Ranted and raved about how I would get hurt, be mugged and killed, he would have a heart attack worrying about me, and on and on. He didn't know I had already applied. I got my acceptance letter a week later and didn't tell ANYONE. I let the univ know so they wouldn't keep sending me stuff. I honestly believed that if I went it meant my father woudl die. He was NOT in great helath at that time and the rant about the school had me worried he would have a heart attack right then. He and bro fought nonstop and I was always afraid during their arguments because of how angry he would get and hwo high his blood pressure would be afterward. He had other objections to 2 other schools and I didn't even apply to them because of that.</p><p></p><p>A few years ago I said something to my mom about it. She was shocked. Upset that I never said a word to her about applying, being accepted, Dad's rant, anything. She HATED that I gave up the opportunity and hoped that I didn't have huge regrets. I don't. LIfe happened the way it was meant to, and if I changed that well, who knows where I would be now? Would I have gone back home to finish my degree? would I have met husband and had these 3 kids? What good would regrets do? </p><p></p><p>The point of this is that you don' eally know what is out there for her. You have some ideas, and you have some ideas of her challenges. If she really wants to go to this school, she has to really work at the academics. Depending on her talents and the talents for the pool of people to be recruited by her colleges, she might get some schools to waive some entrance requirements. IT happens in the top men's sports all the time. I know the big univ in OK does it ALL. THE. TIME. because otherwise they might not win as much and to them and their fans, well, college is for ball and not for education. IT isn't as common in women's sports, but it does happen at times. </p><p></p><p>I know you don't want her to get crushed if she is rejected. And some realism is good. But i think that letting the school counselor or letters from the schools inject that realism is probably better than telling her this yourself. </p><p></p><p>As long as she is ready to cope with a rejection from her choice of school, let her apply. It may be rejected, but she will know she gave it her best shot and it wasn't the right fit for her. All she is going to hear if you tell her she won't make it in is that you don't believe in her. </p><p></p><p>We ALL know that NOTHING is farther from the truth that that. Don't let this put a wedge between you. Let realism put a wedge between her and the counselor or the coaches. Then in years to come there won't be that "He told you WHAT???" that I got from my mom. She wont' ahve the regrets my mother spent months thinking I had. If I had regrets, I got over them long before I even went away to college, and only told my mom because she flat out asked why I didn't apply to that school when I had talked about going there for several years. </p><p></p><p>She has a good head on her shoulders. Trust her to handle whatever they tell her, and to turn to you for support regardless of what happens. Let other poeple be the pin that bursts her bubble.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 590988, member: 1233"] I do not know what sport she plays or which colleges you are talking about. I do know that some sports have enough earning power for the coaches to be able to recruit good players who do not have great grades and actually get those players into the college. It is not as common in women's sports as in men's, but it does happen for high profile teams. It is NOT talked about because it is not supposed to happen. I knwo for a fact that it does happen anyway. There are a lot of different outcomes for this. None of us can predict potential with great accuracy. Of course you don't want her hurt, but you cannot know if she will be hurt by a rejection from this college or if it will spur her to prove them wrong or what her or their reaction will be. She is at an age where you have to let her try. She may end up disappointed, but she will not have regrets later because seh didn't gve it a shot. When I was looking at schools I was recruited by almost every college out there. I had a TON of offers for scholarships and tested extremely high so they clamored for me. At the end of my junior year I realized I had a paper box (the kind that paper is shipped to stores in, holds ten reams of paper) full of letters, offers, etc.... I really wanted to go to one ivy league school in the northeast. My gma told me she would pay for the whole thing if I wanted. I mentioned this school Occupational Therapist (OT) my dad and he FREAKED. Ranted and raved about how I would get hurt, be mugged and killed, he would have a heart attack worrying about me, and on and on. He didn't know I had already applied. I got my acceptance letter a week later and didn't tell ANYONE. I let the univ know so they wouldn't keep sending me stuff. I honestly believed that if I went it meant my father woudl die. He was NOT in great helath at that time and the rant about the school had me worried he would have a heart attack right then. He and bro fought nonstop and I was always afraid during their arguments because of how angry he would get and hwo high his blood pressure would be afterward. He had other objections to 2 other schools and I didn't even apply to them because of that. A few years ago I said something to my mom about it. She was shocked. Upset that I never said a word to her about applying, being accepted, Dad's rant, anything. She HATED that I gave up the opportunity and hoped that I didn't have huge regrets. I don't. LIfe happened the way it was meant to, and if I changed that well, who knows where I would be now? Would I have gone back home to finish my degree? would I have met husband and had these 3 kids? What good would regrets do? The point of this is that you don' eally know what is out there for her. You have some ideas, and you have some ideas of her challenges. If she really wants to go to this school, she has to really work at the academics. Depending on her talents and the talents for the pool of people to be recruited by her colleges, she might get some schools to waive some entrance requirements. IT happens in the top men's sports all the time. I know the big univ in OK does it ALL. THE. TIME. because otherwise they might not win as much and to them and their fans, well, college is for ball and not for education. IT isn't as common in women's sports, but it does happen at times. I know you don't want her to get crushed if she is rejected. And some realism is good. But i think that letting the school counselor or letters from the schools inject that realism is probably better than telling her this yourself. As long as she is ready to cope with a rejection from her choice of school, let her apply. It may be rejected, but she will know she gave it her best shot and it wasn't the right fit for her. All she is going to hear if you tell her she won't make it in is that you don't believe in her. We ALL know that NOTHING is farther from the truth that that. Don't let this put a wedge between you. Let realism put a wedge between her and the counselor or the coaches. Then in years to come there won't be that "He told you WHAT???" that I got from my mom. She wont' ahve the regrets my mother spent months thinking I had. If I had regrets, I got over them long before I even went away to college, and only told my mom because she flat out asked why I didn't apply to that school when I had talked about going there for several years. She has a good head on her shoulders. Trust her to handle whatever they tell her, and to turn to you for support regardless of what happens. Let other poeple be the pin that bursts her bubble. [/QUOTE]
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