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Too tired to fight it tonight, but the difficult child's are playing husband
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<blockquote data-quote="Farmwife" data-source="post: 331879" data-attributes="member: 8617"><p>I stopped playing the restaurant game when difficult child was in third grade. We did the picky stage, he went to bed hungry a couple times from being stubborn and then life went on.</p><p> </p><p>I may have a difficult child but that doesn't mean I can't be stubborn or difficult in return sometimes. (especially when it needs doing) </p><p> </p><p>The script at our house:</p><p> </p><p>I prepare a meal, take it or leave it. </p><p>Didn't want it at dinner time and hungry later? Same thing is waiting on a plate. </p><p>Don't want it or want a snack? Go eat an apple.</p><p>Don't want an apple? Must not be hungry then because a hungry person would eat food, any food.</p><p>Didn't finish your dinner? The rest of it is waiting in the fridge for breakfast. </p><p> </p><p>Reasonable meals are something I don't negotiate on. If anybody complains I just stop cooking and go on strike. </p><p> </p><p>difficult child now eats anything, even things he says eewww to. He even eats spinach, raw or cooked. I may be lost on everything about difficult child but meals is the one thing I have figured out.</p><p> </p><p>I have also gotten my brother in law to eat things that he hates too. I must be the tummy whisperer.<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p> </p><p> </p><p>Is there a way you could make a plan with husband? It sounds like the kids are undermining your authority by playing him. Would he have stopped if you had called and "asked"? A little something along these lines maybe: "Honey the kids decided my dinner wasn't good enough to eat and think you should get them burgers after your 15 hour day, what do you think about that"? It's amazing how things change depending on what information is expressed. husband may have been too tired to get into "it" with difficult child's. Sometimes 5 bucks in drive thru is worth it to come home to quiet. Maybe he needs you to step in and lay down the law.</p><p> </p><p>sidenote: The easiest way for my difficult child to stay out of trouble and have twisted amusement is to manipulate tension between stepdad and I. Maybe make a plan to only eat out on so and so day/s IF kids eat politely rest of week. Then they have to earn it rather than manipulate for it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Farmwife, post: 331879, member: 8617"] I stopped playing the restaurant game when difficult child was in third grade. We did the picky stage, he went to bed hungry a couple times from being stubborn and then life went on. I may have a difficult child but that doesn't mean I can't be stubborn or difficult in return sometimes. (especially when it needs doing) The script at our house: I prepare a meal, take it or leave it. Didn't want it at dinner time and hungry later? Same thing is waiting on a plate. Don't want it or want a snack? Go eat an apple. Don't want an apple? Must not be hungry then because a hungry person would eat food, any food. Didn't finish your dinner? The rest of it is waiting in the fridge for breakfast. Reasonable meals are something I don't negotiate on. If anybody complains I just stop cooking and go on strike. difficult child now eats anything, even things he says eewww to. He even eats spinach, raw or cooked. I may be lost on everything about difficult child but meals is the one thing I have figured out. I have also gotten my brother in law to eat things that he hates too. I must be the tummy whisperer.:winking: Is there a way you could make a plan with husband? It sounds like the kids are undermining your authority by playing him. Would he have stopped if you had called and "asked"? A little something along these lines maybe: "Honey the kids decided my dinner wasn't good enough to eat and think you should get them burgers after your 15 hour day, what do you think about that"? It's amazing how things change depending on what information is expressed. husband may have been too tired to get into "it" with difficult child's. Sometimes 5 bucks in drive thru is worth it to come home to quiet. Maybe he needs you to step in and lay down the law. sidenote: The easiest way for my difficult child to stay out of trouble and have twisted amusement is to manipulate tension between stepdad and I. Maybe make a plan to only eat out on so and so day/s IF kids eat politely rest of week. Then they have to earn it rather than manipulate for it. [/QUOTE]
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