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<blockquote data-quote="bigbear11" data-source="post: 539206"><p>Adopting from Russia requires a huge amount of paper work and numerous social worker visits both prior to and after. When we got home with TRex, we had 4 visits from the social worker (who specialized in adoption) over the first 2 years. This is required by Russia so should not vary by agency. </p><p></p><p>My husband and I both felt that this was horrible and inexcusable! It was all over the news. And we felt like we could relate as we deal with some pretty serious issues with our daughter. To send the child back as she did without exhausting all options was unforgivable in MHO. Not only has this boy been given up by his birth family but someone else as well. Its like Malika said... returning damaged goods like you bought at a store rather than treating as a child.</p><p></p><p>That being said... While I loved (and still recommend) our Adoption agency, I do not feel that they adequately prepared us for the challenges that a child from that setting could have. I did research on my own but fell into the "those poor people. that won't happen with us" category. I wish the resources had been there to provide more reality to our "yea we are getting a baby" mindset. I also wish in hindsight that we had been more assertive about getting early intervention for some of her issues rather than continuing to think that it would get better on its own. Although that was certainly our responsibility, it would have been nice for the agency to recommend and encourage... getting back to providing a more realistic perspective.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="bigbear11, post: 539206"] Adopting from Russia requires a huge amount of paper work and numerous social worker visits both prior to and after. When we got home with TRex, we had 4 visits from the social worker (who specialized in adoption) over the first 2 years. This is required by Russia so should not vary by agency. My husband and I both felt that this was horrible and inexcusable! It was all over the news. And we felt like we could relate as we deal with some pretty serious issues with our daughter. To send the child back as she did without exhausting all options was unforgivable in MHO. Not only has this boy been given up by his birth family but someone else as well. Its like Malika said... returning damaged goods like you bought at a store rather than treating as a child. That being said... While I loved (and still recommend) our Adoption agency, I do not feel that they adequately prepared us for the challenges that a child from that setting could have. I did research on my own but fell into the "those poor people. that won't happen with us" category. I wish the resources had been there to provide more reality to our "yea we are getting a baby" mindset. I also wish in hindsight that we had been more assertive about getting early intervention for some of her issues rather than continuing to think that it would get better on its own. Although that was certainly our responsibility, it would have been nice for the agency to recommend and encourage... getting back to providing a more realistic perspective. [/QUOTE]
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