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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 331158" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Pushes kleenex toward Flutter with a stick.......a long stick. Maybe you call it a pole when they're that long? </p><p></p><p>Well you said something about snot coming out <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/sick.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sick:" title="sick :sick:" data-shortname=":sick:" />. Just wanted you to be protected. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p></p><p>You know...when you have this much ((((((GRRRRRRRRR)))))) built up inside and no one to really take you by the hand to a place and say "Okay Flutter, today we are going to let you just smash the bejezers out of (X insert item) with this hammer and let you get all of this frustration out of your system. Not in front of your Mom, your kids, your peers, your neighbors." I think it DOES start coming out as irritating snot. Not joking. EVERYTHING starts bugging you and then WHAM. </p><p></p><p>Seriously, when was the last time you had a day out of the house with someone that just let you either tear the hell out of something, to get all the frustrations out of your system? You don't play sports, you don't jog, you don't exercise or box, or do physical labor. So all that negative energy has to go somewhere, and after a while it builds up,and up and up. Why not just go some where private with a baseball bat and whip the tar out of a tree? </p><p></p><p>You can say it's crazy all you want to. When my girlfriend lost her son years ago she kept it all inside for months and months. The rest of life went on, she has buried the kids' father five years prior to complications of diabetes, remarried an abusive man - left him despite her Mothers disgust, and could never do a thing right - the rest of daily drudgery went on. She has major health problems. She's 5'2" and was 350+ lbs. So yeah - loads of health problems, she just buried her son, she had a crazy daughter who was getting pregnant on purpose then loosing the babies - her parents were nuts, her family was using her - I mean her life was mud. She was going to crack. I took her out in a cotton field, bought feather pillows and a knife and scissors, and a baseball bat and hit her with the pillows then let her tear the pillows up and hit the ground with the ball bat. I just let her kill the pillows and beat up the earth and yell and scream and cry - then I just held her while she sobbed. She sobbed for over and hour. It was a good release of all the pain and endorphines she had held in her body for so long. Not a daily depression cry - it was a GOOD cry. A release. </p><p></p><p>After? She literally felt physically and mentally better. Like someone had GIVEN her permission to (fill in the blank) but feel okay about being so angry, sad, mad, depressed, upset about her health, her life, her son, her daughter, her problems. And someone told her while they held her - I love you. I'm here for you. I'm just listening to ANYTHING you have to say. JUST LISTENING. Not talking, not telling any stories about how THEY feel or what THEY know.....just HOW DO YOU FEEL? </p><p></p><p>SO I gotta ask - and don't really need an answer when was the last time YOU had a release like that? When was the last time that you got so spitting angry that you let all that tension and anger go in a positive way so much that it let you release all the inner turmoil stored up? </p><p></p><p>It works. My friend - Now 5'2 and 150 lbs, Grandmother of 2 beautiful girls, living on her own, went back to college, diabetes under control, dating a decent man, loves her family but their opinions are just that - theirs. Has a decent job. Laughs a lot. Is happy with herself. I've always been proud of her - now she's proud of herself. She also takes Welbutrin and saw a therapist. So who knows. But she will tell you in a wink that she'll never forget beating up and shredding pillows and all the feathers blowing that day. I told her every feather was a problem leaving ----for good. </p><p></p><p>You have lots of snow -----maybe you could throw snow balls? It's worth a shot - cold, but worth a shot? </p><p></p><p>Hugs Flutter - I get where you're coming from. I've been there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 331158, member: 4964"] Pushes kleenex toward Flutter with a stick.......a long stick. Maybe you call it a pole when they're that long? Well you said something about snot coming out :sick:. Just wanted you to be protected. :winking: You know...when you have this much ((((((GRRRRRRRRR)))))) built up inside and no one to really take you by the hand to a place and say "Okay Flutter, today we are going to let you just smash the bejezers out of (X insert item) with this hammer and let you get all of this frustration out of your system. Not in front of your Mom, your kids, your peers, your neighbors." I think it DOES start coming out as irritating snot. Not joking. EVERYTHING starts bugging you and then WHAM. Seriously, when was the last time you had a day out of the house with someone that just let you either tear the hell out of something, to get all the frustrations out of your system? You don't play sports, you don't jog, you don't exercise or box, or do physical labor. So all that negative energy has to go somewhere, and after a while it builds up,and up and up. Why not just go some where private with a baseball bat and whip the tar out of a tree? You can say it's crazy all you want to. When my girlfriend lost her son years ago she kept it all inside for months and months. The rest of life went on, she has buried the kids' father five years prior to complications of diabetes, remarried an abusive man - left him despite her Mothers disgust, and could never do a thing right - the rest of daily drudgery went on. She has major health problems. She's 5'2" and was 350+ lbs. So yeah - loads of health problems, she just buried her son, she had a crazy daughter who was getting pregnant on purpose then loosing the babies - her parents were nuts, her family was using her - I mean her life was mud. She was going to crack. I took her out in a cotton field, bought feather pillows and a knife and scissors, and a baseball bat and hit her with the pillows then let her tear the pillows up and hit the ground with the ball bat. I just let her kill the pillows and beat up the earth and yell and scream and cry - then I just held her while she sobbed. She sobbed for over and hour. It was a good release of all the pain and endorphines she had held in her body for so long. Not a daily depression cry - it was a GOOD cry. A release. After? She literally felt physically and mentally better. Like someone had GIVEN her permission to (fill in the blank) but feel okay about being so angry, sad, mad, depressed, upset about her health, her life, her son, her daughter, her problems. And someone told her while they held her - I love you. I'm here for you. I'm just listening to ANYTHING you have to say. JUST LISTENING. Not talking, not telling any stories about how THEY feel or what THEY know.....just HOW DO YOU FEEL? SO I gotta ask - and don't really need an answer when was the last time YOU had a release like that? When was the last time that you got so spitting angry that you let all that tension and anger go in a positive way so much that it let you release all the inner turmoil stored up? It works. My friend - Now 5'2 and 150 lbs, Grandmother of 2 beautiful girls, living on her own, went back to college, diabetes under control, dating a decent man, loves her family but their opinions are just that - theirs. Has a decent job. Laughs a lot. Is happy with herself. I've always been proud of her - now she's proud of herself. She also takes Welbutrin and saw a therapist. So who knows. But she will tell you in a wink that she'll never forget beating up and shredding pillows and all the feathers blowing that day. I told her every feather was a problem leaving ----for good. You have lots of snow -----maybe you could throw snow balls? It's worth a shot - cold, but worth a shot? Hugs Flutter - I get where you're coming from. I've been there. [/QUOTE]
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