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<blockquote data-quote="goldenguru" data-source="post: 111816" data-attributes="member: 1545"><p>Hugs Not So~</p><p></p><p>Our daughter (15) was in a program for 16 months. As others have shared, it was a DAILY struggle to not pull her and bring her home. It is the most gut wrenching thing a parent could choose to do.</p><p></p><p>I remember a friend asking me (in the midst of one of my many meltdowns) "What if your daughter had some terrible incurable disease? What if no one in our community could treat her? What if the only hope you had for her survival was to send her far away to where she could get the treatment she needed? Would you do it?"</p><p></p><p>My obvious answer was yes. For some kids, they become so entrenched in drugs, mental illness, rebellion or whatever that the average parent CAN NOT effectively help them get better. We don't have the knowledge, the skills, the ability to help them get better. So we make the decision to send them to someone who can help them.</p><p></p><p>Your son is angry at you. That is normal. Most probably is angrier at himself. Once he moves past the anger, hopefully, he will begin the long arduous road toward getting better.</p><p></p><p>In the meantime, this period of time should be used by you and your family to make changes as well. I hope you are all seeing a therapist, and working out family struggles. Your home needs to be a different one than the one your son left.</p><p></p><p>Hugs. Come often. While we certainly aren't experts - we have walked this road.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="goldenguru, post: 111816, member: 1545"] Hugs Not So~ Our daughter (15) was in a program for 16 months. As others have shared, it was a DAILY struggle to not pull her and bring her home. It is the most gut wrenching thing a parent could choose to do. I remember a friend asking me (in the midst of one of my many meltdowns) "What if your daughter had some terrible incurable disease? What if no one in our community could treat her? What if the only hope you had for her survival was to send her far away to where she could get the treatment she needed? Would you do it?" My obvious answer was yes. For some kids, they become so entrenched in drugs, mental illness, rebellion or whatever that the average parent CAN NOT effectively help them get better. We don't have the knowledge, the skills, the ability to help them get better. So we make the decision to send them to someone who can help them. Your son is angry at you. That is normal. Most probably is angrier at himself. Once he moves past the anger, hopefully, he will begin the long arduous road toward getting better. In the meantime, this period of time should be used by you and your family to make changes as well. I hope you are all seeing a therapist, and working out family struggles. Your home needs to be a different one than the one your son left. Hugs. Come often. While we certainly aren't experts - we have walked this road. [/QUOTE]
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