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<blockquote data-quote="katya02" data-source="post: 376380" data-attributes="member: 2884"><p>If I thought I could cope, I would file for custody when the baby is born. But husband is adamant that he's not raising her, and it wouldn't work for us to be so divided on the issue.</p><p>I honestly don't think I'm up to it myself. I'm willing to help - a lot - but starting parenting all over again, I don't know. </p><p></p><p>I would have called the Humane Society by now except that our county shelters are overwhelmed and not removing cats from homes unless they're dead, basically. These are running</p><p>around spraying everything and fighting with each other; they roam outside and contribute to the terrible feral cat/kitten overpopulation problem the county has, but the only cases around</p><p>here that get action are the ones where some woman has eighty dead cats in the freezer and 160 more in various states of dying and decay (true story, our county, yay). Even then people</p><p>spring to the abuser's defense and any surviving animals end up getting sent back!!! Because the shelters are overwhelmed. Arrrghhh. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> </p><p></p><p>As for CPS, if they have not moved out of that place by the time girlfriend goes into labor I will definitely call CPS. I hope very much that they wouldn't let a baby go home to that place; again, I</p><p>feel pretty cynical. My professional experience with CPS didn't fill me with confidence and the area services have a bad record (again, horrifying newspaper stories). But I will make the call</p><p>and call again, and again. Even if difficult child 1 and girlfriend get it together and find their own place in time, I would ask CPS to make at least one home visit and have some ongoing contact. I don't</p><p>know if they'll do that but it's a high-risk situation. I wish so much that they'd decide to place the baby for adoption. It would be hard never to see her, but I can't help thinking she'd be</p><p>better off.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="katya02, post: 376380, member: 2884"] If I thought I could cope, I would file for custody when the baby is born. But husband is adamant that he's not raising her, and it wouldn't work for us to be so divided on the issue. I honestly don't think I'm up to it myself. I'm willing to help - a lot - but starting parenting all over again, I don't know. I would have called the Humane Society by now except that our county shelters are overwhelmed and not removing cats from homes unless they're dead, basically. These are running around spraying everything and fighting with each other; they roam outside and contribute to the terrible feral cat/kitten overpopulation problem the county has, but the only cases around here that get action are the ones where some woman has eighty dead cats in the freezer and 160 more in various states of dying and decay (true story, our county, yay). Even then people spring to the abuser's defense and any surviving animals end up getting sent back!!! Because the shelters are overwhelmed. Arrrghhh. :( As for CPS, if they have not moved out of that place by the time girlfriend goes into labor I will definitely call CPS. I hope very much that they wouldn't let a baby go home to that place; again, I feel pretty cynical. My professional experience with CPS didn't fill me with confidence and the area services have a bad record (again, horrifying newspaper stories). But I will make the call and call again, and again. Even if difficult child 1 and girlfriend get it together and find their own place in time, I would ask CPS to make at least one home visit and have some ongoing contact. I don't know if they'll do that but it's a high-risk situation. I wish so much that they'd decide to place the baby for adoption. It would be hard never to see her, but I can't help thinking she'd be better off. [/QUOTE]
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