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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 517557" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>*, forgive me but I don't recall difficult child's diagnosis. </p><p></p><p>I don't think you're offering to let her earn some extra cash was a bad idea. Nor do I think you losing it with her when she was acting like a 5 yr old, a bad idea. Often I've found it's in these moments (although it doesn't feel like it at the time) that difficult child's tend to learn the most. Not always, but often. How else were she to know her behavior was so childish if you didn't tell her? And no, honestly, if you hadn't lost it she most likely would <strong>not</strong> have had it register and take hold. But you losing it got her attention. </p><p></p><p>I'm not saying that should be the way to handle every situation, because then it would lose it's effect too. But when it's genuine and with good reason, then a difficult child needs to hear it just as much as anyone else does, maybe more so. </p><p></p><p>So don't feel bad about it. Offering to let someone earn money instead of giving it to them is always a good idea, teaches them that one must work for what one wants and there is no such thing as a free lunch. Yeah, often it's a PITA for US, but I'd rather do it that way instead of just handing cash over myself. </p><p></p><p>Sounds as if hr current roommate may be a really good influence on her. Which in my opinion is awesome. This will also help her to grow and mature if this woman is helping to reinforce what you've been trying to teach her. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 517557, member: 84"] *, forgive me but I don't recall difficult child's diagnosis. I don't think you're offering to let her earn some extra cash was a bad idea. Nor do I think you losing it with her when she was acting like a 5 yr old, a bad idea. Often I've found it's in these moments (although it doesn't feel like it at the time) that difficult child's tend to learn the most. Not always, but often. How else were she to know her behavior was so childish if you didn't tell her? And no, honestly, if you hadn't lost it she most likely would [B]not[/B] have had it register and take hold. But you losing it got her attention. I'm not saying that should be the way to handle every situation, because then it would lose it's effect too. But when it's genuine and with good reason, then a difficult child needs to hear it just as much as anyone else does, maybe more so. So don't feel bad about it. Offering to let someone earn money instead of giving it to them is always a good idea, teaches them that one must work for what one wants and there is no such thing as a free lunch. Yeah, often it's a PITA for US, but I'd rather do it that way instead of just handing cash over myself. Sounds as if hr current roommate may be a really good influence on her. Which in my opinion is awesome. This will also help her to grow and mature if this woman is helping to reinforce what you've been trying to teach her. :) [/QUOTE]
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