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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 517745" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>I think Hound took the Mommy words right out of my Mouth and could NOT have said it better. </p><p></p><p>I'd like to know someday - WHY it seems that it's OKAY for the entire rest of the world to misbehave, act like children, be childish, do mean and bullying things, basically act like an emotional ass or be devoid of all reason and logic - and WE are the ones that get UPSET when we blow a cork? </p><p></p><p>Interestingly enough - having held it together for so many years when I did blow my stack? I really Mt. Vesuviused the entire top of my logically thinking mind - and screamed, yelled, pounded my fists, my heart was racing, and I lobbed rocks - (like 3-4 pounders) at my son while I called him every name in the book known to me at that time - in my front yard and then picked up my bird feeder pole and launched it like a harpoon at the GREAT WHITE HOPE....and his filthy little mocking mentally ill mouth. </p><p></p><p>Give yourself (_) much credit *. YOU ARE of course, after all - ONLY human and occasionally I think you, me and everyone else needs a friend to remind you of that fact. And I know even while I'm reminding you of such? You're sitting there thinking - "Yeah but I should have been able to hold it together better, be an example, walk away, turn the other cheek," and you know - most days we do that - a LOT more than many parents and MORE than MOST for sure. So if you DO have an episode? Meditate on it a moment and do something for you when you can that allows you to forgive yourself. </p><p></p><p>I'm reading now about how our stress TYPES are a contributing factor to our anger - and this would be a perfect example - (and I think for a lot of us) of constantly silently dealing with so many things that we'd LOVE to deal with but feel it's just not worth it. They add up - and when they do? We blow. Then we feel really bad, not exactly sure why such a "little thing" caused us to explode - and we feel enormous guilt. I'm a stuffer - so I'm trying to learn how to deal with THE HERE AND NOW - within 24 hours -appropriately rather than considering myself Mother Superior....and yea a lot of people are going to get me coming at them sideways - but I'm not carrying around a trunk full of "Oh I don't know what to do with this feeling" any more. I'm traveling lighter going into my old age. And Dude? He is going to be a GRAND recipient of my baggage claim in the terminal of life. Eventually he will learn - by this? YOU GET WHAT YOU GIVE - even baby animals get that. And thus? You GOT an apology. </p><p></p><p>I'm not saying Blow up every time - but I would explore not stuffing emotions any longer through anger management. It's very interesting.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 517745, member: 4964"] I think Hound took the Mommy words right out of my Mouth and could NOT have said it better. I'd like to know someday - WHY it seems that it's OKAY for the entire rest of the world to misbehave, act like children, be childish, do mean and bullying things, basically act like an emotional ass or be devoid of all reason and logic - and WE are the ones that get UPSET when we blow a cork? Interestingly enough - having held it together for so many years when I did blow my stack? I really Mt. Vesuviused the entire top of my logically thinking mind - and screamed, yelled, pounded my fists, my heart was racing, and I lobbed rocks - (like 3-4 pounders) at my son while I called him every name in the book known to me at that time - in my front yard and then picked up my bird feeder pole and launched it like a harpoon at the GREAT WHITE HOPE....and his filthy little mocking mentally ill mouth. Give yourself (_) much credit *. YOU ARE of course, after all - ONLY human and occasionally I think you, me and everyone else needs a friend to remind you of that fact. And I know even while I'm reminding you of such? You're sitting there thinking - "Yeah but I should have been able to hold it together better, be an example, walk away, turn the other cheek," and you know - most days we do that - a LOT more than many parents and MORE than MOST for sure. So if you DO have an episode? Meditate on it a moment and do something for you when you can that allows you to forgive yourself. I'm reading now about how our stress TYPES are a contributing factor to our anger - and this would be a perfect example - (and I think for a lot of us) of constantly silently dealing with so many things that we'd LOVE to deal with but feel it's just not worth it. They add up - and when they do? We blow. Then we feel really bad, not exactly sure why such a "little thing" caused us to explode - and we feel enormous guilt. I'm a stuffer - so I'm trying to learn how to deal with THE HERE AND NOW - within 24 hours -appropriately rather than considering myself Mother Superior....and yea a lot of people are going to get me coming at them sideways - but I'm not carrying around a trunk full of "Oh I don't know what to do with this feeling" any more. I'm traveling lighter going into my old age. And Dude? He is going to be a GRAND recipient of my baggage claim in the terminal of life. Eventually he will learn - by this? YOU GET WHAT YOU GIVE - even baby animals get that. And thus? You GOT an apology. I'm not saying Blow up every time - but I would explore not stuffing emotions any longer through anger management. It's very interesting. [/QUOTE]
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