Hi all, sorta lost at the moment.
I have a very troubled teenage daughter who has several mental health issues and is a complete handful. Continuous fighting, police comming around on several occasions, smashing things, several attemped sucides, constantly moving out and comming home, not allowed back at school. Before you say take her to see someone she has been to counselling and has seen several other medical professionals over the last 8 years, but it does continue.
Me and her father split when she was 3 and I met a wonderful man soon after.
This put a lot of stress on our relationship and two months ago he told me it was over he couldn't handle things anymore and he had started talking to someone else, nothing had happened but he wanted to be happy and not live this life anymore which I honestly dont blame him.
Three weeks later me and him got back together after he rang me and told me what a mistake he made. Two weeks after that my daughter tried to slit her wrists and was taken to hospital for a week. She then decided to move in with her biological father who she hasnt had much to do with.
my partner is now saying he doesnt know how he feels about mine and he's relationship, he loves me but he's saying that he never wants her back home with us again he just can't handle it all again.
My daughter is 17 now.
Feeling guilty because I love him and my daughter and want to be there for them both but feel like I have to decide.
Do I wait for a while as I think he will get over this feeling.
Do I leave because he is now unsure of us.
Do I agree with what he's asking as I know it's a lot for a parent to go through let alone a step parent.
It sounds really terrible but I feel like I've had my turn at raising her it's now her biological father's turn.
I know it won't be long before she wants to come home.
I have a very troubled teenage daughter who has several mental health issues and is a complete handful. Continuous fighting, police comming around on several occasions, smashing things, several attemped sucides, constantly moving out and comming home, not allowed back at school. Before you say take her to see someone she has been to counselling and has seen several other medical professionals over the last 8 years, but it does continue.
Me and her father split when she was 3 and I met a wonderful man soon after.
This put a lot of stress on our relationship and two months ago he told me it was over he couldn't handle things anymore and he had started talking to someone else, nothing had happened but he wanted to be happy and not live this life anymore which I honestly dont blame him.
Three weeks later me and him got back together after he rang me and told me what a mistake he made. Two weeks after that my daughter tried to slit her wrists and was taken to hospital for a week. She then decided to move in with her biological father who she hasnt had much to do with.
my partner is now saying he doesnt know how he feels about mine and he's relationship, he loves me but he's saying that he never wants her back home with us again he just can't handle it all again.
My daughter is 17 now.
Feeling guilty because I love him and my daughter and want to be there for them both but feel like I have to decide.
Do I wait for a while as I think he will get over this feeling.
Do I leave because he is now unsure of us.
Do I agree with what he's asking as I know it's a lot for a parent to go through let alone a step parent.
It sounds really terrible but I feel like I've had my turn at raising her it's now her biological father's turn.
I know it won't be long before she wants to come home.