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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 690758" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>This is sweet. </p><p></p><p>Somewhere in there are the boys you raised. Let us pray they find a way to be good men the three of them, but a mother cannot help them now. They are men. They need to find their own way.</p><p></p><p>I agree with the others. Do whatever it takes to establish firm boundaries. Then, once you feel like you have regained control, little by little you can loosen up based upon your terms.</p><p></p><p>For each son, you need to decide what you can take and what you cannot take. How much, when, etc. In my case it began with no disrespect, no conspiracy theories. And then it went from there: You have to work full time, no marijuana at all, pay rent, study, etc. My son is living with me now. It is hard to believe it but once I took control, he started shaping up.</p><p></p><p>Do not feel guilty. Nobody was a perfect mother. We did the best we can. But most of all, we do not help them by letting them walk over us. And surely we do not help ourselves. Your sons need to see you strong, enjoying your life, setting limits with them. If you let them walk all over you--they will never learn to take on challenges and to rule themselves. </p><p></p><p>Take care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 690758, member: 18958"] This is sweet. Somewhere in there are the boys you raised. Let us pray they find a way to be good men the three of them, but a mother cannot help them now. They are men. They need to find their own way. I agree with the others. Do whatever it takes to establish firm boundaries. Then, once you feel like you have regained control, little by little you can loosen up based upon your terms. For each son, you need to decide what you can take and what you cannot take. How much, when, etc. In my case it began with no disrespect, no conspiracy theories. And then it went from there: You have to work full time, no marijuana at all, pay rent, study, etc. My son is living with me now. It is hard to believe it but once I took control, he started shaping up. Do not feel guilty. Nobody was a perfect mother. We did the best we can. But most of all, we do not help them by letting them walk over us. And surely we do not help ourselves. Your sons need to see you strong, enjoying your life, setting limits with them. If you let them walk all over you--they will never learn to take on challenges and to rule themselves. Take care. [/QUOTE]
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