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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 514809" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>WHY DOES SHE NEED TO BE THERE ANYWAY??? In virtually the same words, that was my very FIRST question.... I only can imagine it is to control what I say or to point out the obvious things that Q does that they perceive he should not be a part of. They are so so so stuck on the current behaviors and not at all thinking of who he is overall and what might be needed to help him work through any of it. </p><p></p><p>I mean really??? they want him part of hte Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) program???? THe description of that program does not even discuss any community of voc. training. barely even discusses academics. It is a program where my law advocate said she helped place a child who has so many behaviors and MOST of them are sexually inappropriate (grabbing women in privates, saying vile things WAY beyond the little grunt dances that Quinton does since the kid in teh hospital told him "this is what sex sounds like".... by the way taht has morphed into a hip wiggle like dancing ...it looks and sounds like he is dancing and singing to some song that you dont know the words to, it is a little humerous). CAN YOU IMAGINE??? how in heck would I ever get rid of that kind of behavior??? He would be so stuck in it. I was told he can't stay in school a fully day ANY day of the year. OH HELL NO... no way Q would be in that program and here is the difference between our dist and theirs. THERE is a choice...he doesn't have to be around him...it is a big school. It would not be in his face. they wouldn't have to teach Q that he could never leave a room unless they peaked out in the halls, yelled down taht everything was all clear so he never ran into any situations that might trigger him....uggg....I was shocked they said they were going to do that. So do they think we have to do that his whole life. HOw about teaching him to ignore an issue if it is int he halls. He has had that goal before when there were kids who tried to get him to come with them to run away on the playground or to do other silly things....or to stay out of other kids' problem situations. And he did well when they worked on that stuff. I still have the sheets from those times. </p><p></p><p>I think the reasons they want me to see this Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) program is to make me think...oh no way I want him in this district. AND also I think they only really know about this program since they met this director and had a kid long ago who was in the program. Finally, I think they see Quinton only in terms of aggression. NO matter that for 6 years those who directly worked with him (remember the director has seen Quinton ONCE and the coordinator a handful of times....never have seen him do anything inappropriate at all....they know NOTHING except what admin has complained about and what the IEP says should be goals... he is not even a person to them, I really believe that... the director was amazed when the current home bound teacher said he reads at a fifth grade level and is curious and asks questions about everything... he really wants to know. she said specifically that whoever works with him has to know that he is not doing anything to personally or intentionally hurt them because she just doesn't see that at all. She said when he is given things to do, he does ALL of them. THEN, he is too busy to do other things, he is engaged. She said when he blurts she just distracts him. The director seemed to think this was unusual and not really the point.</p><p></p><p>I think if they come to the tour, they will only want to see that, will say over and over, well you know, he does hit sometimes. (my law advocate says they have NO CLUE what the kids do at this program... she said Q does not even come one tenth close to how violent and verbally obscene they are) </p><p></p><p>So glad advocate knows the director of that program and by the way he is a cpi trainer and one of the experts she showed the restraint report and pics to and he was disgusted... He also has said about that kid who does the sexually inappropriate stuff....that regardless of what one independent person suggests, restraint of that kid only escalates him and they should use every single other option to not have to touch him or restrain him! </p><p></p><p>Oh please, the worry over this little thing, I just need to let it go for tonight.</p><p></p><p>Tomorrow I will see her in person. Tomorrow is the day we are going to talk to the district SUN2 program and going to see if they can provide the continuum of services that I am asking for. I actually printed out the descriptions of the other district programs to use as wording for what I want, LOL</p><p></p><p>I PRAY there is some place for him in this alt. district. I really do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 514809, member: 12886"] WHY DOES SHE NEED TO BE THERE ANYWAY??? In virtually the same words, that was my very FIRST question.... I only can imagine it is to control what I say or to point out the obvious things that Q does that they perceive he should not be a part of. They are so so so stuck on the current behaviors and not at all thinking of who he is overall and what might be needed to help him work through any of it. I mean really??? they want him part of hte Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) program???? THe description of that program does not even discuss any community of voc. training. barely even discusses academics. It is a program where my law advocate said she helped place a child who has so many behaviors and MOST of them are sexually inappropriate (grabbing women in privates, saying vile things WAY beyond the little grunt dances that Quinton does since the kid in teh hospital told him "this is what sex sounds like".... by the way taht has morphed into a hip wiggle like dancing ...it looks and sounds like he is dancing and singing to some song that you dont know the words to, it is a little humerous). CAN YOU IMAGINE??? how in heck would I ever get rid of that kind of behavior??? He would be so stuck in it. I was told he can't stay in school a fully day ANY day of the year. OH HELL NO... no way Q would be in that program and here is the difference between our dist and theirs. THERE is a choice...he doesn't have to be around him...it is a big school. It would not be in his face. they wouldn't have to teach Q that he could never leave a room unless they peaked out in the halls, yelled down taht everything was all clear so he never ran into any situations that might trigger him....uggg....I was shocked they said they were going to do that. So do they think we have to do that his whole life. HOw about teaching him to ignore an issue if it is int he halls. He has had that goal before when there were kids who tried to get him to come with them to run away on the playground or to do other silly things....or to stay out of other kids' problem situations. And he did well when they worked on that stuff. I still have the sheets from those times. I think the reasons they want me to see this Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) program is to make me think...oh no way I want him in this district. AND also I think they only really know about this program since they met this director and had a kid long ago who was in the program. Finally, I think they see Quinton only in terms of aggression. NO matter that for 6 years those who directly worked with him (remember the director has seen Quinton ONCE and the coordinator a handful of times....never have seen him do anything inappropriate at all....they know NOTHING except what admin has complained about and what the IEP says should be goals... he is not even a person to them, I really believe that... the director was amazed when the current home bound teacher said he reads at a fifth grade level and is curious and asks questions about everything... he really wants to know. she said specifically that whoever works with him has to know that he is not doing anything to personally or intentionally hurt them because she just doesn't see that at all. She said when he is given things to do, he does ALL of them. THEN, he is too busy to do other things, he is engaged. She said when he blurts she just distracts him. The director seemed to think this was unusual and not really the point. I think if they come to the tour, they will only want to see that, will say over and over, well you know, he does hit sometimes. (my law advocate says they have NO CLUE what the kids do at this program... she said Q does not even come one tenth close to how violent and verbally obscene they are) So glad advocate knows the director of that program and by the way he is a cpi trainer and one of the experts she showed the restraint report and pics to and he was disgusted... He also has said about that kid who does the sexually inappropriate stuff....that regardless of what one independent person suggests, restraint of that kid only escalates him and they should use every single other option to not have to touch him or restrain him! Oh please, the worry over this little thing, I just need to let it go for tonight. Tomorrow I will see her in person. Tomorrow is the day we are going to talk to the district SUN2 program and going to see if they can provide the continuum of services that I am asking for. I actually printed out the descriptions of the other district programs to use as wording for what I want, LOL I PRAY there is some place for him in this alt. district. I really do. [/QUOTE]
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