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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 514825" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Buddy - sending you strength.</p><p></p><p>Couple of thoughts. First one sounds paranoid but... I don't think I am. It is not unheard of for a district to make school so utterly unpalatable for kids/parents that in the end, dropping out seems like the best option. Went thru it with- Boo and no 1:1 nurse for a full quarter, ergo no school for a full quarter. School wins if they frustrate you to point of leaving. I wonder if by so obsessively gate-keeping what programs you see, SD is perhaps trying to box you in.</p><p></p><p>Second thought - You need to find your own continuum of services since SD is dragging their feet so badly (how long has Q been out of school now?) *and* since, thus far, it doesn't sound like they've found a program you like. Advocate probably knows, or check the state dept of ed - somewhere there is a listing of private schools. Perhaps there's one in there that will more appropriately fit Q's needs.</p><p></p><p>When my difficult child was essentially expelled (don't ask, long story, but staff was *really* good at triggering him, <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> ) from the sped therapeutic school at age 13, we did home-bound for a short period of time. In the meantime, my SD gave me free reign to look at other options (I suspect because they only had him for 6 more mos and then he'd be HS SD's problem, LOL). Not once did anyone from SD arrange or attend those school tours with- me, or even direct me to a particular school, which was fine by me because by that time we'd been doing the difficult child thing for over 6 years and I knew what I was doing. He ended up in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) #3 shortly thereafter so it became moot.</p><p></p><p>Now when he left the same sped therapeutic school at age 8, SD did direct me to the next placement (hardcore BD), but again, I toured on my own. </p><p></p><p>Nowhere is it written that a parent cannot find an appropriate placement. You don't want to unilaterally place him because you could very well end up footing the bill, but I think it would be a *really* good idea for you to see what else is out there. Next meeting, you could walk in and say, "Well I've looked at Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) and SUN and the issues I see are XYZ. I also looked at Program ABC, LMN, STU. They offer 123 and 789, and I believe are a far more appropriate placement for Q."</p><p></p><p>Deep breaths. Many good wishes for today's visit.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 514825, member: 8"] Buddy - sending you strength. Couple of thoughts. First one sounds paranoid but... I don't think I am. It is not unheard of for a district to make school so utterly unpalatable for kids/parents that in the end, dropping out seems like the best option. Went thru it with- Boo and no 1:1 nurse for a full quarter, ergo no school for a full quarter. School wins if they frustrate you to point of leaving. I wonder if by so obsessively gate-keeping what programs you see, SD is perhaps trying to box you in. Second thought - You need to find your own continuum of services since SD is dragging their feet so badly (how long has Q been out of school now?) *and* since, thus far, it doesn't sound like they've found a program you like. Advocate probably knows, or check the state dept of ed - somewhere there is a listing of private schools. Perhaps there's one in there that will more appropriately fit Q's needs. When my difficult child was essentially expelled (don't ask, long story, but staff was *really* good at triggering him, :winking: ) from the sped therapeutic school at age 13, we did home-bound for a short period of time. In the meantime, my SD gave me free reign to look at other options (I suspect because they only had him for 6 more mos and then he'd be HS SD's problem, LOL). Not once did anyone from SD arrange or attend those school tours with- me, or even direct me to a particular school, which was fine by me because by that time we'd been doing the difficult child thing for over 6 years and I knew what I was doing. He ended up in Residential Treatment Center (RTC) #3 shortly thereafter so it became moot. Now when he left the same sped therapeutic school at age 8, SD did direct me to the next placement (hardcore BD), but again, I toured on my own. Nowhere is it written that a parent cannot find an appropriate placement. You don't want to unilaterally place him because you could very well end up footing the bill, but I think it would be a *really* good idea for you to see what else is out there. Next meeting, you could walk in and say, "Well I've looked at Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) and SUN and the issues I see are XYZ. I also looked at Program ABC, LMN, STU. They offer 123 and 789, and I believe are a far more appropriate placement for Q." Deep breaths. Many good wishes for today's visit. [/QUOTE]
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