I read another post today about relationships and issues with people. I thought maybe those of us who are not the best at this might get some hinters, or some input on situations we have recently been in. I have bi-polar and have a few close friends and I am friendly. I sometime have a hard time with telling when someone is going to speak and I end up talking over them, I don't mean to I just have a hard time picking up the signal. I prefer dogs. I am my most comfortable at home, with Broady and my new dog Kainda. It's peaceful. I haven't had a lot of that as most of us here haven't. i have at the insistence of my oldest daughter tried to reach out to more people, when she left for college her sister (difficult child) had left to move to California. She cried on the way out the door and asked me to reach out more and make friends. She's not a crier, so I thought wow, I probably better do something if other people think it's that bad. I'm not rich, I live paycheck to paycheck, I have my own mobile home I am buying, I am terrible about paying bills on time. I have impulse issues, and if I see something cheap and I want it, I worry about the consequences later. As long as I am not homeless, and I am working an paying my own bills, my vehicle is paid for. it's not new in fact, it's over 10 years old, it's the best vehicle I've had old or new. It's not beautiful by any means, but it's mine and it runs and thats all I need or want. I'm not asking anyone for money for anything, if I do something stupid financial wise, I fix it. The problem is when you become friends with, people for some reason, at least for me, they want to say things to me like: Do you think you really could afford another dog? Im not a hoarder, I have two dogs and a kitten. Do you think getting another dog was the best decision? They have never been to my house, and if they had they would see that it is clean, not immaculate cause i do have dog toys and cat toys around my front room, and magazines laying about, normal stuff. On a bad fibro day it wouldnt ever be considered dirty. I just don't understand comments like that and they really tick me off. When they light up a cigarette, I have never said to them do you think that is wise, or could you have made a better decision on how to spend your money. I don't understand why they think it's okay to do and act that way. I do confront them most times and say whoa, I moved out of my parents house when I was 17 and don't answer to anyone. Or, um, excuse me, I think you are out of line. It's not anyone's business what I can afford or cannot afford. Because I dont join you at the spa to get a pedicure, does not mean that I couldnt afford to, I just don't want anyone playing with my feet. Rave all you want about how it feels, nope not for me. Okay so do you ignore the behavior or do you blurt out things like i do and toss the relationship? After they do something like that I can't imagine it's not going to creep back in sometime. I just don't know. HELP??? I like you guys I really do, I think you are about the only friends I really need.