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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 607804" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Cedar, I've always loved that Blind Melon song and video. And I will carve out some time to watch that TED talk.</p><p></p><p>Jody, if you're not comfortable socializing, then don't force yourself. Here's an interesting statistic. about 65% of people are extraverted and 35% introverted. (I'm quoting a study from memory, so my numbers may be slightly off). The people saying socializing is healthy are extraverted. There's nothing wrong with socializing, but it's not for everyone. I think you need to be true to yourself. If having people over stresses you out, then don't do it. Your home is your sanctuary. Anything that makes it a less safe and peaceful place for you damages that.</p><p></p><p>I am an introvert's introvert. Years ago when I took the Myers-Briggs personality type test, I scored 100% on the introvert scale. I do like to be social occasionally, but mostly not. I LOVE this forum, because it's asyncrhonous. I can spend time with my friends on my schedule, rather than having to do stuff in real time, which freaks me out.</p><p></p><p>I also have trouble with groups of girlfriends. I'm confused by the conversations, and don't really understand why they do what they do. I remember being convinced to join a bunch of girl friends to go out to some event or other. It was awful and boring, but they all agreed that it was "better than sitting home on a Saturday night". Personally, I wish I could have that Saturday night back to sit at home.</p><p></p><p>I guess what I'm trying to say is that, you're not alone in feeling the way you do, and there's nothing wrong with it. You don't need to try to change yourself to please others, or to justify what you're doing or why.</p><p></p><p>Sit home, enjoy your dogs and cats. Enjoy your painting project. I hope the flowers turn out well.</p><p></p><p>*Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 607804, member: 3907"] Cedar, I've always loved that Blind Melon song and video. And I will carve out some time to watch that TED talk. Jody, if you're not comfortable socializing, then don't force yourself. Here's an interesting statistic. about 65% of people are extraverted and 35% introverted. (I'm quoting a study from memory, so my numbers may be slightly off). The people saying socializing is healthy are extraverted. There's nothing wrong with socializing, but it's not for everyone. I think you need to be true to yourself. If having people over stresses you out, then don't do it. Your home is your sanctuary. Anything that makes it a less safe and peaceful place for you damages that. I am an introvert's introvert. Years ago when I took the Myers-Briggs personality type test, I scored 100% on the introvert scale. I do like to be social occasionally, but mostly not. I LOVE this forum, because it's asyncrhonous. I can spend time with my friends on my schedule, rather than having to do stuff in real time, which freaks me out. I also have trouble with groups of girlfriends. I'm confused by the conversations, and don't really understand why they do what they do. I remember being convinced to join a bunch of girl friends to go out to some event or other. It was awful and boring, but they all agreed that it was "better than sitting home on a Saturday night". Personally, I wish I could have that Saturday night back to sit at home. I guess what I'm trying to say is that, you're not alone in feeling the way you do, and there's nothing wrong with it. You don't need to try to change yourself to please others, or to justify what you're doing or why. Sit home, enjoy your dogs and cats. Enjoy your painting project. I hope the flowers turn out well. *Trinity [/QUOTE]
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