I figured someone here might have had this problem... We have had more and more frequent calls from the school, and most recently from daycare to pick my 6 YO difficult child up. It occured to me today, and my mom and husband seem to agree with me, that he might be acting out now just to get sent home. He hates school, and has a problem with one little boy in particular, and every time something happens, there is mom or dad or grandma there to take him home (where everything will be ok). I mean, obviously it isn't "playtime" when he gets home. He is sent to his room or made to sit down and do his work that he missed in school when this happens, but I think he hates school enough to make that worth his while. I have a feeling if the school would stop making us pick him up, that we would see a lot less of this type of behavior. The school doesn't have any sort of on campus suspension. The only option for him is to sit in the office and do his work, and apparently that isn't working for some reason. I'm also feeling like the school isn't doing enough to try and keep him there. The reason they couldn't keep him in the office is because he was being defiant (threw his work on the ground). What is the school required to do? He DOES have an IEP and a BIP. Also, when is it time for an advocate to step in? Are those costly?