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<blockquote data-quote="jbrain" data-source="post: 95151" data-attributes="member: 3450"><p>Well, she sounds like my dtr when she came home from her last rehab. She basically got herself kicked out of there because she refused to go along with the program anymore. We let her come home (well, she was 17, not a lot of choice) rather than go to a foster home--she had been court ordered to treatment and was in violation of her probation. But, she convinced us that she was ready to get a job and go to community college. Well, she was pretty good for a few days and then it became apparent that she was not really going to do any of these things and she just wanted to party with friends. She did move out just before her 18th birthday to live with boyfriend.</p><p></p><p>I have said it many times on this board--she would not help herself til we quit helping her. As long as we were involved in insisting she get a job, go to school, do volunteer work, etc. she would do nothing--all part of the ODD I think. She did not start taking responsibility til she did not have us to fall back on anymore.</p><p></p><p>I think the same may be true of your dtr--she is already breaking your rules. She was so anxious to come back home and yet she is already doing what she wants. I think you are going to have to be very tough on her, she will take a mile if you give her an inch--that's what difficult children do.</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jbrain, post: 95151, member: 3450"] Well, she sounds like my dtr when she came home from her last rehab. She basically got herself kicked out of there because she refused to go along with the program anymore. We let her come home (well, she was 17, not a lot of choice) rather than go to a foster home--she had been court ordered to treatment and was in violation of her probation. But, she convinced us that she was ready to get a job and go to community college. Well, she was pretty good for a few days and then it became apparent that she was not really going to do any of these things and she just wanted to party with friends. She did move out just before her 18th birthday to live with boyfriend. I have said it many times on this board--she would not help herself til we quit helping her. As long as we were involved in insisting she get a job, go to school, do volunteer work, etc. she would do nothing--all part of the ODD I think. She did not start taking responsibility til she did not have us to fall back on anymore. I think the same may be true of your dtr--she is already breaking your rules. She was so anxious to come back home and yet she is already doing what she wants. I think you are going to have to be very tough on her, she will take a mile if you give her an inch--that's what difficult children do. Hugs, Jane [/QUOTE]
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