Sweetie, every one of us has had to make decisions based on things that other people have little understanding of. I have long told our docs and "experts" that they know their field but they are NOT the expert on my child. I LIVE with the child, love him/her, and KNOW them as well or better than the doctor knows their field of expertise.
When push comes to shove, I trust my own judgment and even the wisdom of this board before I trust most of the docs. If my instincts say something and the doctor doesn't agree, well, the instincts win every time.
It really sounds like you are at or very close to the end of your rope. Do what you have to do. If the risperdal doesn't help then you really are going to need an out of home placement. She is already physically abusive and it can NOT be tolerated.
It may be that you will have to press domestic violence or assault charges on her. It will be hard to do, but it might open up a whole world of help to her and teh rest of you.
In the meantime I hope the medications help.
Hugs!
When push comes to shove, I trust my own judgment and even the wisdom of this board before I trust most of the docs. If my instincts say something and the doctor doesn't agree, well, the instincts win every time.
It really sounds like you are at or very close to the end of your rope. Do what you have to do. If the risperdal doesn't help then you really are going to need an out of home placement. She is already physically abusive and it can NOT be tolerated.
It may be that you will have to press domestic violence or assault charges on her. It will be hard to do, but it might open up a whole world of help to her and teh rest of you.
In the meantime I hope the medications help.
Hugs!