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<blockquote data-quote="Catmom" data-source="post: 708116" data-attributes="member: 21332"><p>Hello! Sorry that this has stressed you out today. It seems like this has all consumed your thoughts all day and caused so much stress. I have had days like that. I think that what I am getting from your post is that it sounds like you have tried everything possible to help and well, it didn't work. I always say to myself and my situation that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results. That was me, always trying to help yet again, but I would tweak the expectations and rules to get better results and it never worked! Your son is very fortunate that you have given him wonderful opportunities to improve his life but he doesn't seem to be taking advantage of it. Maybe time for you to pull back? I am not sure the exact answer but I myself am past the point of babysitting my adult son...meaning...I am not forcing him to do a drug test.....I am not forcing him to pay rent...I am not forcing him to get a job..all of these conditions didn't make him wake up and smell the coffee, he just found more creative ways to get around my rules. When I finally decided to not babysit my adult son, I had him leave my house. Which by the way has been a few weeks now and he refuses to contact me. He doesn't have a phone so I can't contact him. Hopefully he learning to be an adult now but will keep all posted.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Catmom, post: 708116, member: 21332"] Hello! Sorry that this has stressed you out today. It seems like this has all consumed your thoughts all day and caused so much stress. I have had days like that. I think that what I am getting from your post is that it sounds like you have tried everything possible to help and well, it didn't work. I always say to myself and my situation that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results. That was me, always trying to help yet again, but I would tweak the expectations and rules to get better results and it never worked! Your son is very fortunate that you have given him wonderful opportunities to improve his life but he doesn't seem to be taking advantage of it. Maybe time for you to pull back? I am not sure the exact answer but I myself am past the point of babysitting my adult son...meaning...I am not forcing him to do a drug test.....I am not forcing him to pay rent...I am not forcing him to get a job..all of these conditions didn't make him wake up and smell the coffee, he just found more creative ways to get around my rules. When I finally decided to not babysit my adult son, I had him leave my house. Which by the way has been a few weeks now and he refuses to contact me. He doesn't have a phone so I can't contact him. Hopefully he learning to be an adult now but will keep all posted. [/QUOTE]
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