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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 708291" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>Copa..your situation is slightly more complicated by the fact that your state you say has legalized marijuana usage and your son has qualified to buy it at medical dispensaries. Sometimes our situations become unusually complicated and it seems yours fits that bill.</p><p>We too greatly avoid loaning our daughter money.</p><p>However, the one exception, if we do make one, will usually be money for food.</p><p>I think it's good that you are making this a loan and you mentioned it has been paid back.</p><p>I would also consider putting a quiet "cap" on any loans for food. A maximum. Maybe not tell your son this, but have it be something you agree upon wit your significant other....perhaps something like this:</p><p>1. Avoid loans altogther.</p><p>2. Loans for food only and in an extreme situation.</p><p>3. Loans for a maximum of a certain amount of money (you and M agree ahead of time on a dollar amount per week/per month?)</p><p>4. Consider giving him a gift card to the food store if you aren't doing that already, so you know he is likely using it for food only. But make sure it is clear this is "real" money and when you expect to be paid back.</p><p>If there comes a time that he does not pay back a loan (for food), maybe you would have to rethink even this? A logical consequence. If he doesn't pay off a food loan.....cut off ALL food loans for a certain period of time...perhaps indefinitely.</p><p>Sending you cyber ((((hugs))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 708291, member: 4152"] Copa..your situation is slightly more complicated by the fact that your state you say has legalized marijuana usage and your son has qualified to buy it at medical dispensaries. Sometimes our situations become unusually complicated and it seems yours fits that bill. We too greatly avoid loaning our daughter money. However, the one exception, if we do make one, will usually be money for food. I think it's good that you are making this a loan and you mentioned it has been paid back. I would also consider putting a quiet "cap" on any loans for food. A maximum. Maybe not tell your son this, but have it be something you agree upon wit your significant other....perhaps something like this: 1. Avoid loans altogther. 2. Loans for food only and in an extreme situation. 3. Loans for a maximum of a certain amount of money (you and M agree ahead of time on a dollar amount per week/per month?) 4. Consider giving him a gift card to the food store if you aren't doing that already, so you know he is likely using it for food only. But make sure it is clear this is "real" money and when you expect to be paid back. If there comes a time that he does not pay back a loan (for food), maybe you would have to rethink even this? A logical consequence. If he doesn't pay off a food loan.....cut off ALL food loans for a certain period of time...perhaps indefinitely. Sending you cyber ((((hugs)))) [/QUOTE]
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