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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 717995" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Im so sorry. And dont reacall your story. How old is he? Drugs? I am assuming drugs by his behavior. </p><p></p><p>If he is 18 or over and on drugs, your husband is 100% right...the girls need peace at home. Your being with son, instead of home, wont change him. Or help him. I am wondering if it is healthy for your elderly parents to deal with this. Can he stay at a shelter or rehab? Not will he, but are these options?</p><p></p><p>If he can go to a rehab or shelter, maybe he should be dropped off in front of one and he can choose to go inside or stay on the streets. Usually they choose the streets only because there are rules against using drugs in shelters or rehabs. Until he quits using, there is nothing you can do and I dont know how old grandparents are, but is this a risk to them? The drama? The drugs?</p><p></p><p>Not all mentally ill people are drug addicts. You cant treat mental illness or even know if there is true mental illness until a person is sober. And you must know you have no control over your sons sobriety.</p><p></p><p>I gave you my .02 advice. in my opinion you need the peace of home, your marriage and your girls. Your parents in my opinion deserve quiet golden years. This is on your son. He is not a poor little boy. He is a tall, grown man with hair and a low voice...one who chooses to use drugs and manipulate everyone with no thought of anyone but himself. Refrain from seeing him as that cute eight year old he used to be. He isnt that person anymore.</p><p></p><p>You cant save him by destroying yourself or your marriage. You matter too!! And your girls need you.</p><p></p><p>It may seem as if you have to follow your son around to keep him alive, but you cant. Only he can put himself first and get help and he wont let you watch over him. Maybe he did the suicide threat to get money from you (for drugs).</p><p></p><p>I hope this calms down, you go home and Son finds another place to go other than his grandparents. And I wish you love, light, and peace. This is not your battle, even if it feels as if you can save him. Be well.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 717995, member: 1550"] Im so sorry. And dont reacall your story. How old is he? Drugs? I am assuming drugs by his behavior. If he is 18 or over and on drugs, your husband is 100% right...the girls need peace at home. Your being with son, instead of home, wont change him. Or help him. I am wondering if it is healthy for your elderly parents to deal with this. Can he stay at a shelter or rehab? Not will he, but are these options? If he can go to a rehab or shelter, maybe he should be dropped off in front of one and he can choose to go inside or stay on the streets. Usually they choose the streets only because there are rules against using drugs in shelters or rehabs. Until he quits using, there is nothing you can do and I dont know how old grandparents are, but is this a risk to them? The drama? The drugs? Not all mentally ill people are drug addicts. You cant treat mental illness or even know if there is true mental illness until a person is sober. And you must know you have no control over your sons sobriety. I gave you my .02 advice. in my opinion you need the peace of home, your marriage and your girls. Your parents in my opinion deserve quiet golden years. This is on your son. He is not a poor little boy. He is a tall, grown man with hair and a low voice...one who chooses to use drugs and manipulate everyone with no thought of anyone but himself. Refrain from seeing him as that cute eight year old he used to be. He isnt that person anymore. You cant save him by destroying yourself or your marriage. You matter too!! And your girls need you. It may seem as if you have to follow your son around to keep him alive, but you cant. Only he can put himself first and get help and he wont let you watch over him. Maybe he did the suicide threat to get money from you (for drugs). I hope this calms down, you go home and Son finds another place to go other than his grandparents. And I wish you love, light, and peace. This is not your battle, even if it feels as if you can save him. Be well. [/QUOTE]
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