Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Turns Out that difficult child's Biggest Problem is Me
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 437359" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>It is time to go find out who is in charge of the program that pays Ms. Ally. Then you need to write a clear, firm, detailed complaint about the idiotic things Ms. Ally has said and done and how you have done ALL you could to go along with her even though you have spent the last ten plus years doing the same things with other tdocs, psychiatrists, teachers, counselors, etc.... You have given her every benefit of the doubt and your child is not getting better. Instead of actually facing the fact that difficult child is the problem and doing something to help the family, all Ms. Ally has come up wtih is blame for YOU for somehow not loving your daughter enough. Love will not fix her. it does a huge disservice to difficult child and an even bigger insult to you and a still bigger injury to any chance of a positive relationship between you and difficult child for Ms. Ally to put the blame for difficult child's poor decisions and choices (most of them made with CLEAR understanding and prior knowledge of the fact that you and husband will NOT approve of or support those not just poor but actually often dangerous decisions) onto her parents or ANYONE other than difficult child herself. </p><p></p><p>Ms. Ally has just handed difficult child an excuse to indulge in ALL the dangerous things she wants to do - it is not difficult child's fault, it is her mothers!!! So now difficult child can go arrange to meet strange men and/or boys anywhere, to ask them to come and kill her parents to "rescue" her from your abuse, to use drugs, skip school, steal, lie, cheat, anything under the sun, and NONE of it will be difficult children fault.</p><p></p><p>Let the top dog know, in writing, that his organization, Ms. Ally and him specifically will be held accountable for ANYTHING difficult child does from this point on. That if she kills someone, steals, breaks any law, hurts anyone, that you will hold THEM accountable because they handed her a gift wrapped excuse on a solid gold platter to do any dang thing she wants to do. You will ONLY release them from responsiblity if they get a much more experienced person in Ms. Ally's position and they send difficult child to a GOOD Residential Treatment Center (RTC) that fits her needs - and if they allow her to refuse to go? You will drive difficult child to the top dog's office and leave her there to go home and ruin HIS life, his children, his finances and put everyone and everything he cares about in the dangerous position his employee and organization has now put YOU and your family in (including your daughter who is being greatly damaged by this and you are terrified for her safety because now nothing is her responsibility and she has already engaged in extremely risky, scary behaviors!).</p><p></p><p>Ms. Ally has sunk to this level because otherwise she has to face the fact that she hasn't done a dang thing that helped difficult child in any way. That unless/until seh gets difficult child into Residential Treatment Center (RTC) of some kind there will be NO improvement and possible great deterioration in difficult child's behavior and choices. </p><p></p><p>You might even tell them that now you feel you have NO choice but to turn difficult child over to CPS - you love her with ever fiber of your being and want her to get better. You don't believe what Ms. Ally said was true, but if there is even the TINIEST chance that it is correct, you have no option other than to turn her over to Ms. Ally and Top Dog's loving care. You will be by one day this week to leave her at his office with all of her things. Could he please ahve the paperwork ready for you to sign? You cannot take the chance of further damaging her and since he and Ms. Ally are so perfect, tehy can rescue her and fix her.</p><p></p><p>I am proud that you did not pound ms. A into dust then an there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 437359, member: 1233"] It is time to go find out who is in charge of the program that pays Ms. Ally. Then you need to write a clear, firm, detailed complaint about the idiotic things Ms. Ally has said and done and how you have done ALL you could to go along with her even though you have spent the last ten plus years doing the same things with other tdocs, psychiatrists, teachers, counselors, etc.... You have given her every benefit of the doubt and your child is not getting better. Instead of actually facing the fact that difficult child is the problem and doing something to help the family, all Ms. Ally has come up wtih is blame for YOU for somehow not loving your daughter enough. Love will not fix her. it does a huge disservice to difficult child and an even bigger insult to you and a still bigger injury to any chance of a positive relationship between you and difficult child for Ms. Ally to put the blame for difficult child's poor decisions and choices (most of them made with CLEAR understanding and prior knowledge of the fact that you and husband will NOT approve of or support those not just poor but actually often dangerous decisions) onto her parents or ANYONE other than difficult child herself. Ms. Ally has just handed difficult child an excuse to indulge in ALL the dangerous things she wants to do - it is not difficult child's fault, it is her mothers!!! So now difficult child can go arrange to meet strange men and/or boys anywhere, to ask them to come and kill her parents to "rescue" her from your abuse, to use drugs, skip school, steal, lie, cheat, anything under the sun, and NONE of it will be difficult children fault. Let the top dog know, in writing, that his organization, Ms. Ally and him specifically will be held accountable for ANYTHING difficult child does from this point on. That if she kills someone, steals, breaks any law, hurts anyone, that you will hold THEM accountable because they handed her a gift wrapped excuse on a solid gold platter to do any dang thing she wants to do. You will ONLY release them from responsiblity if they get a much more experienced person in Ms. Ally's position and they send difficult child to a GOOD Residential Treatment Center (RTC) that fits her needs - and if they allow her to refuse to go? You will drive difficult child to the top dog's office and leave her there to go home and ruin HIS life, his children, his finances and put everyone and everything he cares about in the dangerous position his employee and organization has now put YOU and your family in (including your daughter who is being greatly damaged by this and you are terrified for her safety because now nothing is her responsibility and she has already engaged in extremely risky, scary behaviors!). Ms. Ally has sunk to this level because otherwise she has to face the fact that she hasn't done a dang thing that helped difficult child in any way. That unless/until seh gets difficult child into Residential Treatment Center (RTC) of some kind there will be NO improvement and possible great deterioration in difficult child's behavior and choices. You might even tell them that now you feel you have NO choice but to turn difficult child over to CPS - you love her with ever fiber of your being and want her to get better. You don't believe what Ms. Ally said was true, but if there is even the TINIEST chance that it is correct, you have no option other than to turn her over to Ms. Ally and Top Dog's loving care. You will be by one day this week to leave her at his office with all of her things. Could he please ahve the paperwork ready for you to sign? You cannot take the chance of further damaging her and since he and Ms. Ally are so perfect, tehy can rescue her and fix her. I am proud that you did not pound ms. A into dust then an there. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Turns Out that difficult child's Biggest Problem is Me
Top