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Turns Out that difficult child's Biggest Problem is Me
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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 437590" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>About this list- ok take #3- that translates into "blame the parents and make them change". Really- it's like those buzz words people in juvenule CSU use. The "words" all sound good to the public so everyone buys into it-"juvenile probation/parole officers 'work <em>with'</em> families to support the family and youth", for example, translates into micro managing the parental decisions and taking over their lives.</p><p></p><p>The only way to make these "monitored programs" come out successful is to already have the problem worked out at home by the time these people get involved or to somehow cover up any problem so the monitoring person thinks the problem got resolved, in my humble opinion. I really haven't heard from anyone in this state at least, that says their family of difficult child got turned around this way. I have known people though who just somehow convinced POs that everything suddenly got resolved, when the difficult child was still out of control.</p><p></p><p>Another thought about MST- guy we had seemed to believe that ALL of difficult children' issues were based on the theory like Pavlow's dog- I don't know if this applies to all MST workers or not but I can see where the whole program might be based on this methodology- if a kid gets consistent rewards and consequences, the behavior will change to what is acceptable. And if that doesn't work, it MUST be because the kid wasn't given proper nurturing in early development that lead him/her to think normally as an adolescent or adult. It's based solely on the Pavlow's Dog approach (for lack of better phrase)- conditioning I guess- but we all know that doesn't always apply when dealing with human beings, much less difficult children.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 437590, member: 3699"] About this list- ok take #3- that translates into "blame the parents and make them change". Really- it's like those buzz words people in juvenule CSU use. The "words" all sound good to the public so everyone buys into it-"juvenile probation/parole officers 'work [I]with'[/I] families to support the family and youth", for example, translates into micro managing the parental decisions and taking over their lives. The only way to make these "monitored programs" come out successful is to already have the problem worked out at home by the time these people get involved or to somehow cover up any problem so the monitoring person thinks the problem got resolved, in my humble opinion. I really haven't heard from anyone in this state at least, that says their family of difficult child got turned around this way. I have known people though who just somehow convinced POs that everything suddenly got resolved, when the difficult child was still out of control. Another thought about MST- guy we had seemed to believe that ALL of difficult children' issues were based on the theory like Pavlow's dog- I don't know if this applies to all MST workers or not but I can see where the whole program might be based on this methodology- if a kid gets consistent rewards and consequences, the behavior will change to what is acceptable. And if that doesn't work, it MUST be because the kid wasn't given proper nurturing in early development that lead him/her to think normally as an adolescent or adult. It's based solely on the Pavlow's Dog approach (for lack of better phrase)- conditioning I guess- but we all know that doesn't always apply when dealing with human beings, much less difficult children. [/QUOTE]
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