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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 242078" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Linda - I'm so sorry to hear about wm!! I hope he's okay.</p><p> </p><p>It's a gray area at this age, in my humble opinion. At some point the "real" consequences of these behaviors have to start kicking in, regardless of diagnosis. Adulthood isn't that far off - we've talked before about how we hospitalize and therapeutize these kids throughout their childhood and adolescence, but the rules change as they hit older teens/adulthood. In many ways it's unfair, setting them up to expect another hospitalization at age 21 for flipping out over whatever. I don't think that's realistic - no one is going to care at 21 that they're diagnosed with whatever. </p><p> </p><p>*You* didn't do anything to this difficult child other than ask that he be held to standards which he will be held to in the future. Not unreasonable, nothing to feel guilty for.</p><p> </p><p>I also think it's especially important for wm to see in action that there are consequences for these behaviors for everyone, and to know that Mom has got his back. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p> </p><p>Hugs, hon.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 242078, member: 8"] Linda - I'm so sorry to hear about wm!! I hope he's okay. It's a gray area at this age, in my humble opinion. At some point the "real" consequences of these behaviors have to start kicking in, regardless of diagnosis. Adulthood isn't that far off - we've talked before about how we hospitalize and therapeutize these kids throughout their childhood and adolescence, but the rules change as they hit older teens/adulthood. In many ways it's unfair, setting them up to expect another hospitalization at age 21 for flipping out over whatever. I don't think that's realistic - no one is going to care at 21 that they're diagnosed with whatever. *You* didn't do anything to this difficult child other than ask that he be held to standards which he will be held to in the future. Not unreasonable, nothing to feel guilty for. I also think it's especially important for wm to see in action that there are consequences for these behaviors for everyone, and to know that Mom has got his back. ;) Hugs, hon. [/QUOTE]
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