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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 353547" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Nomad, this really hit home with me. I think that with a lot of our difficult children we have to be 100% clear, 100% of the time. Even with the boundaries you've set up, if you're still doing something nice for your difficult child then it blurs the boundaries a little bit.</p><p></p><p>I've often said that my difficult child is binary. An expectation is either all on or it's all off. Sometimes people want to go easy on him, give him a break, bend a rule a bit for him, but it always ends in disaster. If the rule or expectation is slackened even a bit, it's as though it never existed. It does him no good to be easy with him.</p><p></p><p>Star, I think that Dude might be the same way. It's all or nothing, and by his behaviour, he's chosen nothing.</p><p></p><p>I'm so very sorry.</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 353547, member: 3907"] Nomad, this really hit home with me. I think that with a lot of our difficult children we have to be 100% clear, 100% of the time. Even with the boundaries you've set up, if you're still doing something nice for your difficult child then it blurs the boundaries a little bit. I've often said that my difficult child is binary. An expectation is either all on or it's all off. Sometimes people want to go easy on him, give him a break, bend a rule a bit for him, but it always ends in disaster. If the rule or expectation is slackened even a bit, it's as though it never existed. It does him no good to be easy with him. Star, I think that Dude might be the same way. It's all or nothing, and by his behaviour, he's chosen nothing. I'm so very sorry. Trinity [/QUOTE]
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