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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 412760" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>As I am a firm believer..........everything happens for a reason. Everything. Whether we know that reason immediately, or 20/30 yrs down the road.....or never meant to know it at all. </p><p></p><p>We've already done the confrontation with the truth of the situation several times. I've attempted to smack her upside the head with it. Nichole has tried to smack her upside the head with it. (you'd have been so proud auntie Star at our girl's grown up way she did it!) She knows she <strong>will not</strong> come here, we've made it clear as crystal. Girls have done with same with her. Does she for whatever reason believe us or choose to live in her delusion? I'm betting she's feeding the delusion of rescue simply because it requires no work on their part. </p><p> </p><p>Seems no matter what we say/do, <strong>she. does. not. get. it. Period.</strong></p><p></p><p>Since easy child has no sitter, and the search for one is turning in to quite a feat........she has one on the hook so prayers would be appreciated........I'm watching the 3 boys : 5 months, 24 months, and 7 yrs more than full time hours. They leave the house and husband will tell you I <strong>collapse</strong>. Literally. And these are <strong>good</strong> boys with no gfgness who are very well behaved. easy child has kicked up the sitter search into high gear due to this alone. </p><p></p><p>As I'm watching the boys I think to myself........if 3 little kids do this to me, what on earth are 3 school aged difficult children going to do to me? Kids with emotional, mental, and physical issues that will be demanding. Alex, much as I love him, is violent....very, and his rages are pretty much off the charts with that out of touch reality to them due to the autism/brain damage that Travis had. And this is going to make Travis sound horrid, but with most of those nitemarish rages had I not been his mom with a strong bond of love in place, I can only imagine how they'd have escalated even worse. Evan is also violent, very and his are more frequent due to absolutely no parenting at all.. The violence is on top of the many many other issues both Alex and Evan have. Kayla would be a cake walk compared to the boys......and she has a truck load of her own issues going on, just without the violence. And fostering them? <strong>They. would. not. go. home.</strong></p><p></p><p>I love Kayla and Alex more than I could ever put here into words. Evan I've grown to love since he's been here. But watching easy child's boys who are <strong>easy</strong> in comparison to what I'd be facing with katie's kids.........Well, all I can say is the guy above knows who he's dealing with and worked it so I was forced to see I am just physically not up to the job. And it's taken 3 wks to get me to admit it to myself. </p><p></p><p>That's just the day to day behavior stuff....not dealing with the school, IEPs, docs, specialists, cps, their parents drama..........</p><p></p><p>God has a plan. But as much as it breaks my heart, Kayla Alex and Evan living with me is not part of that plan. And I have to focus on that it's His Plan, not mine, to prevent depression from knocking at my door.</p><p></p><p>Physically I've got all I can do to maintain the Nana role, as much as my heart wants to, I just can't step back into the warrior mom role. The time the kids have spent here let me get a realistic view of their behavior and issues I would not have had if they'd remained in Mo. I couldn't/wouldn't have been able to make a decision based on facts, just my heart.</p><p></p><p>I worry about the shelter calling cps. The more I've thought about it.....I just don't know how they handle this. I know cps will swoop in and immediately remove children from parents who are on the streets. But I don't know if the shelter will call to check if katie and M actually have some place to go to or not. I know the shelter in Mo didn't. Dayton didn't need to as our shelter contacted them to tell them katie was moving there. I hope our shelter staff has the brains to call ahead to any place katie and M claim to be going to verify. But I don't know that that will. Know what I mean?? </p><p></p><p>At the moment? I'm using skills learned from working the psychiatric ward with katie and M. I will not feed her delusions, but I also have to be careful about confronting her about her delusions as well. It's a tightrope walk. I can tell from her mails she is either the moron of the century or extremely delusional right now. She is clinging to either we will take them in or the shelter won't possibly be able to throw them out due to Alex. The latter I haven't quite grasped where that came from as it isn't like Alex is wheelchair bound or something and does not even make sense........of course most of her delusional ramblings don't make sense. When shelter staff follow through, and they will, I have no idea what her reaction will be and if it will be taken out on the kids. She and M have no where to go period. And even if shelter staff didn't call, this is a very small town, would take less than a couple days before police and residents figured out they were homeless and picked them up.</p><p></p><p>Her only chance is that another shelter take them in. Since she's not mentioned this for many many weeks.......I'm guessing they drummed it in to her that won't be happening.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/sigh.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sigh:" title="sigh :sigh:" data-shortname=":sigh:" /></p><p></p><p>I worry about the shelter not calling to verify a place to stay because my grandkids already lived for more than 2 months on the streets of St Louis homeless before getting into that shelter. I don't want them to live even 1 night like that again. </p><p></p><p>Hmmm. Maybe easy child could call shelter staff and ask. I'm afraid to for fear they'll tell katie. I don't want her tipped off at this point. Idiot M will convince her to attempt to hitchhike out of the area with the kids. (yes he's that stupid)</p><p></p><p>Unless my mouth blurts out something totally different when that fateful call comes.......I'll be telling cps I'm not physically up to take the kids at this time. We will make it clear the family will be a strong support system for them though and want to be actively involved in their lives. I pray when that moment of truth comes I can stay strong and not bite off more than I can chew.......it <strong>will</strong> be the hardest thing I will ever do, I'm prepared for that.</p><p></p><p>I just want this nightmare to end for those kids.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 412760, member: 84"] As I am a firm believer..........everything happens for a reason. Everything. Whether we know that reason immediately, or 20/30 yrs down the road.....or never meant to know it at all. We've already done the confrontation with the truth of the situation several times. I've attempted to smack her upside the head with it. Nichole has tried to smack her upside the head with it. (you'd have been so proud auntie Star at our girl's grown up way she did it!) She knows she [B]will not[/B] come here, we've made it clear as crystal. Girls have done with same with her. Does she for whatever reason believe us or choose to live in her delusion? I'm betting she's feeding the delusion of rescue simply because it requires no work on their part. Seems no matter what we say/do, [B]she. does. not. get. it. Period.[/B] Since easy child has no sitter, and the search for one is turning in to quite a feat........she has one on the hook so prayers would be appreciated........I'm watching the 3 boys : 5 months, 24 months, and 7 yrs more than full time hours. They leave the house and husband will tell you I [B]collapse[/B]. Literally. And these are [B]good[/B] boys with no gfgness who are very well behaved. easy child has kicked up the sitter search into high gear due to this alone. As I'm watching the boys I think to myself........if 3 little kids do this to me, what on earth are 3 school aged difficult children going to do to me? Kids with emotional, mental, and physical issues that will be demanding. Alex, much as I love him, is violent....very, and his rages are pretty much off the charts with that out of touch reality to them due to the autism/brain damage that Travis had. And this is going to make Travis sound horrid, but with most of those nitemarish rages had I not been his mom with a strong bond of love in place, I can only imagine how they'd have escalated even worse. Evan is also violent, very and his are more frequent due to absolutely no parenting at all.. The violence is on top of the many many other issues both Alex and Evan have. Kayla would be a cake walk compared to the boys......and she has a truck load of her own issues going on, just without the violence. And fostering them? [B]They. would. not. go. home.[/B] I love Kayla and Alex more than I could ever put here into words. Evan I've grown to love since he's been here. But watching easy child's boys who are [B]easy[/B] in comparison to what I'd be facing with katie's kids.........Well, all I can say is the guy above knows who he's dealing with and worked it so I was forced to see I am just physically not up to the job. And it's taken 3 wks to get me to admit it to myself. That's just the day to day behavior stuff....not dealing with the school, IEPs, docs, specialists, cps, their parents drama.......... God has a plan. But as much as it breaks my heart, Kayla Alex and Evan living with me is not part of that plan. And I have to focus on that it's His Plan, not mine, to prevent depression from knocking at my door. Physically I've got all I can do to maintain the Nana role, as much as my heart wants to, I just can't step back into the warrior mom role. The time the kids have spent here let me get a realistic view of their behavior and issues I would not have had if they'd remained in Mo. I couldn't/wouldn't have been able to make a decision based on facts, just my heart. I worry about the shelter calling cps. The more I've thought about it.....I just don't know how they handle this. I know cps will swoop in and immediately remove children from parents who are on the streets. But I don't know if the shelter will call to check if katie and M actually have some place to go to or not. I know the shelter in Mo didn't. Dayton didn't need to as our shelter contacted them to tell them katie was moving there. I hope our shelter staff has the brains to call ahead to any place katie and M claim to be going to verify. But I don't know that that will. Know what I mean?? At the moment? I'm using skills learned from working the psychiatric ward with katie and M. I will not feed her delusions, but I also have to be careful about confronting her about her delusions as well. It's a tightrope walk. I can tell from her mails she is either the moron of the century or extremely delusional right now. She is clinging to either we will take them in or the shelter won't possibly be able to throw them out due to Alex. The latter I haven't quite grasped where that came from as it isn't like Alex is wheelchair bound or something and does not even make sense........of course most of her delusional ramblings don't make sense. When shelter staff follow through, and they will, I have no idea what her reaction will be and if it will be taken out on the kids. She and M have no where to go period. And even if shelter staff didn't call, this is a very small town, would take less than a couple days before police and residents figured out they were homeless and picked them up. Her only chance is that another shelter take them in. Since she's not mentioned this for many many weeks.......I'm guessing they drummed it in to her that won't be happening.:sigh: I worry about the shelter not calling to verify a place to stay because my grandkids already lived for more than 2 months on the streets of St Louis homeless before getting into that shelter. I don't want them to live even 1 night like that again. Hmmm. Maybe easy child could call shelter staff and ask. I'm afraid to for fear they'll tell katie. I don't want her tipped off at this point. Idiot M will convince her to attempt to hitchhike out of the area with the kids. (yes he's that stupid) Unless my mouth blurts out something totally different when that fateful call comes.......I'll be telling cps I'm not physically up to take the kids at this time. We will make it clear the family will be a strong support system for them though and want to be actively involved in their lives. I pray when that moment of truth comes I can stay strong and not bite off more than I can chew.......it [B]will[/B] be the hardest thing I will ever do, I'm prepared for that. I just want this nightmare to end for those kids. [/QUOTE]
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