Hi TL. I'll 2nd what RN said, "you are so doing the right thing"
They can manage to say the harshest things..and then... call right up saying "whatcha doing...?" Translation: I'll be nice because I need $, help, bail, fill in the blank..."Oh" , I think, "you CAN be nice if you want something"..the definition of being used, isn't it?
..Or because it's tuesday or the sun is shining, or it's whatever. My hubby is a rock in this area--he would say to me "what were the excuses all the other times he drank/drugged?" Their lack of correlation between cause and effect just slays me.
Wow-don't I say this after every interaction? ..and yet, there is hope. I know you are so tired, we all are. But as a circle we are strong, stronger than we could possibly believe. Hold on. Prayers.