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Ugly, chauvinistic attitudes in young boy
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<blockquote data-quote="Allan-Matlem" data-source="post: 662994" data-attributes="member: 10"><p>I think it is great that you have helped him develop a hobby and a special interest , maybe you should leave his sister out of this area. As far as his sexist talk maybe we need input from him to understand his concerns and perspectives about this issue which might throw some light on why he is obsessed with this. Using Ross Greene's CPS - see livesinthebalance.org reassure him that he is not in trouble but you want to understand why he talks about girls or women as he does . so we would begin the ' empathy and info gathering stage by saying - I have noticed that when you talk about girls or women , don't say nice things about them , what's up ? If he says he doesn't know - say to him , take your time and think about it , if he still as difficulty maybe think of some tentative suggestions - the drilling down process = check the Plan B cheat sheet on the site , would include questions like - can you tell me more , is this with all girls , can you give me more examples etc Once we have a clear understanding of his concerns , we can put our concerns on the table and try and help him. Giving him replacement behaviors without dealing with the underlying issue in my humble opinion won't help . I hope this helps . I also recommend finding a mentor, older brother , buddy or buddy-tutor for your son</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Allan-Matlem, post: 662994, member: 10"] I think it is great that you have helped him develop a hobby and a special interest , maybe you should leave his sister out of this area. As far as his sexist talk maybe we need input from him to understand his concerns and perspectives about this issue which might throw some light on why he is obsessed with this. Using Ross Greene's CPS - see livesinthebalance.org reassure him that he is not in trouble but you want to understand why he talks about girls or women as he does . so we would begin the ' empathy and info gathering stage by saying - I have noticed that when you talk about girls or women , don't say nice things about them , what's up ? If he says he doesn't know - say to him , take your time and think about it , if he still as difficulty maybe think of some tentative suggestions - the drilling down process = check the Plan B cheat sheet on the site , would include questions like - can you tell me more , is this with all girls , can you give me more examples etc Once we have a clear understanding of his concerns , we can put our concerns on the table and try and help him. Giving him replacement behaviors without dealing with the underlying issue in my humble opinion won't help . I hope this helps . I also recommend finding a mentor, older brother , buddy or buddy-tutor for your son [/QUOTE]
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