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<blockquote data-quote="WSM" data-source="post: 240235" data-attributes="member: 5169"><p>Thanks.</p><p> </p><p>It wasn't from our daughter. It might be from the teacher; my husband says she's given him the stink eye from the very first time they met. I went to an open house and she was real nice to me; I'm pretty sensitive to the unspoken accusation--I've been made to feel uncomfortable in that school for about two years. I used to hate picking the kids up from aftercare because of the watchful, stiff politeness. </p><p> </p><p>difficult child did a real number on that school. He's so cute (looked like little Opie Taylor on Andy Griffin), and he's got the wounded puppy dog game down superbly. Tears can just start falling out of his eyes and he's been in so much therapy he's got the jargon down pat: all he wants is to be a part of the family; all he wants is positive reinforcement; all he wants is more time alone with his dad; he doesn't know where his homework went--it was right here before he went to the bathroom and then it was gone; he doesn't know how the knife got in his backpack--someone must have 'planted' it on him; he doesn't see why he can't go into other people's rooms and steal their books--he's so bored it hurts and all he wants is a second chance.</p><p> </p><p>He's also polite and helpful (wonder where he learned manners and consideration from? maybe his home life?), so it's hard, to understand how he could bring weapons to school (he doesn't threaten anyone, and has in fact pointed this out to everyone, 'Yes, but I didn't threaten anyone with them' as if that made it all right). </p><p> </p><p>It was shocking to hear that the school never had any trouble with him. Not only did he bring weapons to school on 4 occasions (a bb gun, two knives and a razor blade), but he:</p><p> </p><p>Seldom did homework, threw way every agenda, refused to pass papers from home to school or vice versa (including pictures, checks, field trip permissions slips, not just complaint notes).</p><p> </p><p>Almost never was in full school uniform. He threw away his shoes (many mornings knocked on the bedroom door and told husband that his shoes were missing, he had no shoes anywhere), his school shirts, his bookbag, his school pants, and the classroom shirt everyone was to wear on field trips. </p><p> </p><p>He shook down classmates for money. At a book fair he managed to talk another kid into giving him $20. The teacher made him give it back later. On three occasions he had money he'd talk other kids out of and I made him take to the office and give back. God knows how many times it happened where he wasn't caught. It wasn't coersive or a threat or stealing, everyone agrees, even the kids he got the money from, that they gave up the money voluntarily because they felt sorry for difficult child. He even talked the lunch lady once into refunding him some of his lunch money which is against school policy. He's great at a con. </p><p> </p><p>He took his little sister off school campus and they snuck to a store and bought candy. He put it in her bookbag and blamed her when they were caught. 'She' wanted to do it, and he was just trying to be helpful.</p><p> </p><p>He turned in a report and interspersed in the sentences of the report were phrases like "...the Civil war started in April 1961. I wish my dad were dead. It began with the firing on Ft Sumpter, SC. I hate my sister. Within months many states seceded from the Union..." He said those phrases just 'showed up' when he sent it to be printed off my printer.</p><p> </p><p>He lost every library book he was allowed to take home.</p><p> </p><p>But he was so helpful and polite and bright and does so well on his test scores and just wants to please and is friendly, he can't possibly be a con artist. Even though he did persuade the school to contact my husband to suggest that difficult child needed at cell phone at 10 (altho they had no reason why he needed one). He also persuaded the horrible CPS worker that his 7 year old sister should be taken out of aftercare and come home and spend a half hour or so alone until her other brothers came home, while HE should go to aftercare instead. And the school was always telling husband that he should spend more alone time with difficult child, give him more privileges, make him feel more special, do more one-on-one with him. But when husband did spend time alone with him and do just that, it was ALWAYS, is ALWAYS followed by difficult child getting some sort of 'revenge' on dad somehow.</p><p> </p><p>So my husband was just shocked when this woman informed him that the school had never had any problems with difficult child and didn't understand why husband would put him in a military school. They had constant trouble with him. And at a school ESE conference once, the school itself thought it was a good idea if he went to a local therapeutic residential school (which unfortunately refused to take him saying their program would only 'frustrate him', whatever that means). One of the reasons we put him in the military school was to reduce the risk of him going to the detention center. </p><p> </p><p>What the heck is the matter with people?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WSM, post: 240235, member: 5169"] Thanks. It wasn't from our daughter. It might be from the teacher; my husband says she's given him the stink eye from the very first time they met. I went to an open house and she was real nice to me; I'm pretty sensitive to the unspoken accusation--I've been made to feel uncomfortable in that school for about two years. I used to hate picking the kids up from aftercare because of the watchful, stiff politeness. difficult child did a real number on that school. He's so cute (looked like little Opie Taylor on Andy Griffin), and he's got the wounded puppy dog game down superbly. Tears can just start falling out of his eyes and he's been in so much therapy he's got the jargon down pat: all he wants is to be a part of the family; all he wants is positive reinforcement; all he wants is more time alone with his dad; he doesn't know where his homework went--it was right here before he went to the bathroom and then it was gone; he doesn't know how the knife got in his backpack--someone must have 'planted' it on him; he doesn't see why he can't go into other people's rooms and steal their books--he's so bored it hurts and all he wants is a second chance. He's also polite and helpful (wonder where he learned manners and consideration from? maybe his home life?), so it's hard, to understand how he could bring weapons to school (he doesn't threaten anyone, and has in fact pointed this out to everyone, 'Yes, but I didn't threaten anyone with them' as if that made it all right). It was shocking to hear that the school never had any trouble with him. Not only did he bring weapons to school on 4 occasions (a bb gun, two knives and a razor blade), but he: Seldom did homework, threw way every agenda, refused to pass papers from home to school or vice versa (including pictures, checks, field trip permissions slips, not just complaint notes). Almost never was in full school uniform. He threw away his shoes (many mornings knocked on the bedroom door and told husband that his shoes were missing, he had no shoes anywhere), his school shirts, his bookbag, his school pants, and the classroom shirt everyone was to wear on field trips. He shook down classmates for money. At a book fair he managed to talk another kid into giving him $20. The teacher made him give it back later. On three occasions he had money he'd talk other kids out of and I made him take to the office and give back. God knows how many times it happened where he wasn't caught. It wasn't coersive or a threat or stealing, everyone agrees, even the kids he got the money from, that they gave up the money voluntarily because they felt sorry for difficult child. He even talked the lunch lady once into refunding him some of his lunch money which is against school policy. He's great at a con. He took his little sister off school campus and they snuck to a store and bought candy. He put it in her bookbag and blamed her when they were caught. 'She' wanted to do it, and he was just trying to be helpful. He turned in a report and interspersed in the sentences of the report were phrases like "...the Civil war started in April 1961. I wish my dad were dead. It began with the firing on Ft Sumpter, SC. I hate my sister. Within months many states seceded from the Union..." He said those phrases just 'showed up' when he sent it to be printed off my printer. He lost every library book he was allowed to take home. But he was so helpful and polite and bright and does so well on his test scores and just wants to please and is friendly, he can't possibly be a con artist. Even though he did persuade the school to contact my husband to suggest that difficult child needed at cell phone at 10 (altho they had no reason why he needed one). He also persuaded the horrible CPS worker that his 7 year old sister should be taken out of aftercare and come home and spend a half hour or so alone until her other brothers came home, while HE should go to aftercare instead. And the school was always telling husband that he should spend more alone time with difficult child, give him more privileges, make him feel more special, do more one-on-one with him. But when husband did spend time alone with him and do just that, it was ALWAYS, is ALWAYS followed by difficult child getting some sort of 'revenge' on dad somehow. So my husband was just shocked when this woman informed him that the school had never had any problems with difficult child and didn't understand why husband would put him in a military school. They had constant trouble with him. And at a school ESE conference once, the school itself thought it was a good idea if he went to a local therapeutic residential school (which unfortunately refused to take him saying their program would only 'frustrate him', whatever that means). One of the reasons we put him in the military school was to reduce the risk of him going to the detention center. What the heck is the matter with people? [/QUOTE]
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