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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 438900" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Thanks all. </p><p>Well, Insane, I think you are right. At the same time, it wouldn't be true or fair to say that there is nothing for us here... sometimes I do a practice, which may sound a bit corny, of recounting one's blessings, a kind of gratitude practice. What we have here is a sweet little house in a most beautiful place, with immediate access to the countryside which is a great teacher for children, a health and social services system second to none, probably the best schooling there is to be had in the state sector in France. Those things are not without importance. However, close friends, family and love for Jacob are to be found in Morocco and England, not here... </p><p>Star, thanks for your funny and compassionate words (this is sounding like an Oscar speech already <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" />) I loved your just ever so slightly caricatured vision of the village - alas I am not a young mother but old enough to be wiser and tougher than all these silly little slights... but I think it was a kind of straw and camel's back effect, you know. Things of late have been accumulating and have built up to a feeling of "something has to give". I'm sure many of us here are familiar with that. </p><p>HaoZi, much as the villagers - not these specifically but probably villagers anywhere in France or comparable countries - are uncompassionate and judgemental, I would hesitate to compare them to totalitarian Fascist or Communist ideologues <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p>And Marguerite, thanks VERY much for this, which I have not yet had the time to listen to but will do tonight or tomorrow. Funnily enough, this morning I had an interview with a woman who is helping me set up my translation business (paid for by the state, one of the perks and privileges of living here) and we got talking about hyperactivity and some of the difficulties I am facing with people's judgementalism. She told me that she had a friend with a hyperactive son who faced identical criticism and ladk of understanding. She commented that the problem was that ADHD and autism and the like are simply not well known or understood in France and that in these kind of respects, France lags behind many other western countries. She also made the perceptive comment that it is easier to condemn than to try to understand and that anything that does not fit the mould is just stamped on or ignored here. She is, I should point out, French - but with a background in psychology...</p><p>Horses for course... I came here because of my attachment to Jacob becoming fluent in French. I don't regret it, but it is perhaps a stage, a stepping stone to the place where we will eventually settle.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 438900, member: 11227"] Thanks all. Well, Insane, I think you are right. At the same time, it wouldn't be true or fair to say that there is nothing for us here... sometimes I do a practice, which may sound a bit corny, of recounting one's blessings, a kind of gratitude practice. What we have here is a sweet little house in a most beautiful place, with immediate access to the countryside which is a great teacher for children, a health and social services system second to none, probably the best schooling there is to be had in the state sector in France. Those things are not without importance. However, close friends, family and love for Jacob are to be found in Morocco and England, not here... Star, thanks for your funny and compassionate words (this is sounding like an Oscar speech already :)) I loved your just ever so slightly caricatured vision of the village - alas I am not a young mother but old enough to be wiser and tougher than all these silly little slights... but I think it was a kind of straw and camel's back effect, you know. Things of late have been accumulating and have built up to a feeling of "something has to give". I'm sure many of us here are familiar with that. HaoZi, much as the villagers - not these specifically but probably villagers anywhere in France or comparable countries - are uncompassionate and judgemental, I would hesitate to compare them to totalitarian Fascist or Communist ideologues :) And Marguerite, thanks VERY much for this, which I have not yet had the time to listen to but will do tonight or tomorrow. Funnily enough, this morning I had an interview with a woman who is helping me set up my translation business (paid for by the state, one of the perks and privileges of living here) and we got talking about hyperactivity and some of the difficulties I am facing with people's judgementalism. She told me that she had a friend with a hyperactive son who faced identical criticism and ladk of understanding. She commented that the problem was that ADHD and autism and the like are simply not well known or understood in France and that in these kind of respects, France lags behind many other western countries. She also made the perceptive comment that it is easier to condemn than to try to understand and that anything that does not fit the mould is just stamped on or ignored here. She is, I should point out, French - but with a background in psychology... Horses for course... I came here because of my attachment to Jacob becoming fluent in French. I don't regret it, but it is perhaps a stage, a stepping stone to the place where we will eventually settle. [/QUOTE]
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